My husband and I have been married for 10 years but been together for 16 years, we split up approx. 14 years ago for a few months, he did his thing and I did mine but he made the mistake of not "wrapping" things up and ended up with a girl who he barely knew who was pregnant, we have tried for years to become in contact with her to no avil, her mother would get up and move every time she knew we were looking, so as years went on with no success we eventually stopped looking and had a family, twin girls and a 14 year old son.... Just this past march we found out that she meaning his daughter was looking for us we were soooo excited! We set up a meeting time/place and things went GREAT!! The kids loved her we loved her....life was complete and it felt good, I knew it had to be too good to be true when one day she said to my husband that her step dad sexually abused her, so my husband immediately took police action, she ended up moving in with us almost right away because my husband thought that was the right thing to do. She has mental issues like I mean HUGE mental issues and is seen by a therapist and psychologist weekly to help herby through whatever she goes through, since she has moved in its like she is in love with my husband, follows him everywhere tells him she wants to cuddle him, throws fits if the word "no" is said to her cuts herself and has once overdosed on her pills which ended her in the hospital, I fully understand the "honeymoon" phase as they have not seen each other in 14 years but the honeymoon phase has ended on my husbands part and she just wants to be around him, nobody else not me or the other children.... Just him......she manipulates in every way she can so she can get her own way....she intentionally pins myself and my husband against each other ( which often times works) she has ruined my family and my marriage and I don't know how to fix it, she won't go see her mother EVER!!! Even though she is the one that raised her, she's demanding, lazy, caniving, manipulative,and just plain out mean, we have 3 other children and when she sees him playing with any of them she throws a fit saying that he doesn't love her......just last evening we went to a wedding reception of my husbands sister....she made a scene by crying and yelling into the doorway of the hall calling for her father.....she cried all night even though we offered to take her home if she wasn't comfortable there, but as soon as she seen myself and my husband fighting about this situation she immediately turned to be happy dancing on the dance floor, pretty much saying "mission accomplished" I feel like I'm competing against an15 year old kid!!! He works nights and doesn't get home until 3am and she sits in the window and waits for him.....she wants him to herself and that's the issue.... I've tried to tell her that she's not the only child and that there are 3 others that need attention too! I don't know what to do....let her ruin my family and take my kids and leave? Or stick it out and be miserable? Either way doesn't sound very nice to me....I should also mention my husband has FINALLY started to see how she truly is but we don't have a solution! HELP!