Where a dad remarries after previous wife died and upon his death new wife automatically gains custody because nobody in previous family in a position to take custody and that kids is basically treated like cinderella just never gets that happy ending

my sil married a man whose previous wife died and he had a son. Lovely kid and an adult now but when my sil hubby died, he automatically went into custody of exhusbands parents as they wanted to care for him. 
 

he had property and some wealth and it was beyond my sil control as she wasn't allowed custody when there is immediate blood family who could take custody of him.

well grandparents die and this kids aunts, uncles etc kicked this minor kid to the kerb and kept the grandparents property and money which this kids dad had left for sole purpose of caring for him.

that kid called my sil in tears. She picked him up and renovated a home and gifted it to him and let her 2 kids (his half siblings know) which they had no issues with. They have an amazing relationship and he's always at family weddings and holidays celebrating with us.

Greedy kids and family members will play any dodgy angle they can to get their hands on estate money with their sense of entitlement. There are many horror stories out there to read. 
 

if your sd's know whole estate is left to your minir daughter in event of both your death for sole purpose of her basic care and education/living expenses, they automatically will know her guardian will control that acct.

they can attempt to claim guardianship of her with no intentions of caring for her. So make sure will specifies why your brother is appointed guardian and that sd's are not to take on this role because of continual abuse/harassment etc towards you and claiming you both abused them etc and that your brother will ensure your daughters basic care and needs are met

when a judge reads that, whatever bullshit claim sd's make will not have much weight. Generally blood ties supercede and if sd's have not had any relationship but your brother has, a judge will not uproot your daughter's life into toxic sd world

you need to protect And think of every possible scenario they could pull based on their ages as that will guide you what to do.

My superannuation is willed 20% to my husband and 30% each to my 2 kids. Hubby has listed me as beneficiary on his life insurance policy for work. He withdrew a decent amount of retirement savings to buy a home in my country so in event of him dying then we had a home.

sd's had cut off contact 5.5 yrs with their dad and were 23.5 and 13.5 when they re-initiated contact. Eldest sd told her dad that he had a financial responsibility to provide cs for her apparently indefinitely and that he needed to transfer a property to sd's and ss name only despite hubby buying said property after divorce and being solely responsible for and paying that mortgage. We also had 2 kids then.

i told hubby then and there if he wasn't gonna ensure we were protected beforehand, then i wouldn't remain in this marriage with his mentality of "well i gotta deal with batshit crazy exwife and greedy skids (2 whom were adults already) and them trying to disinherit us".

hubby didn't wanna admit that his kids from exwife were capable of doing this but even he himself agreed he couldn't trust them to have our best interests at heart. In Malaysia its islamic inheritance law. They make no exceptions if there are younger kids from a subsequent marriage and vindictive greedy skids. They follow the basic Islamically the elder kids need to ensure the younger kids are provided for if the surviving parent is a single parent.

but I reminded hubby that he knows there is a big disparity in ages, relationships and lack their of that its reckless to not ensure our kids are provided for and expect me to suck it up. Thats not being responsible at all. Any of my late mum or dads estate will not go to any skids. I will have it assigned to my kids and a portion to hubby.

In australia from memory surviving spouse gets 50% and kids remaining 50% split amongst them. I do however trust that any estate money from my parents upon my death if hubby survived (unlikely because he is much older than me) that hubby would only spend that on our kids and himself.

we also have joint bank accts in my country. Me and hubby having joint bank accts in his country, skids can still claim his 50% share of funds. So for example, currently i'm in courts there settling my late mothers estate selling a property. If i chose to have my share of inheritance deposited into a joint bank acct in malaysia which is jointly held by me and hubby which is solely from the deposit of sale of my late mothers home and hubby dies and say there is $200,000 in that acct. skids can claim $100,000 share to be split amongst them but since they would have to consider my 2 kids and it follows islamic inheritance, sd26.5 would get $12,500, ss24 would get $25,000, sd16.5 would get $12,500 and my 2 kids would get (d6 $12,500 and s5 $25,000). 
 

skids would be able to legally claim through courts $50,000 of what is my money. Courts don't care where source of these funds come. Its for this reason money will stay in a separate acct in hubbys country in my name only and in my country australia we are safe to hold joint accts. skids can't claim a share as its not part of deceased estate