Getting paid to help out with skids?
Hi everyone! I need a little advice. My fiance and I moved in together a few months ago. I have 2 children, ages 12 and 5, from a previous relationship and he has a 3 year old with his ex. I have primary custody of my kids. They go to their father every other weekend. My FI has his son 3 mornings/afternoons per week and alternating weekends. The problem arose recently concerning my daughter. Prior to us moving in together, I had her schedule and alternative childcare arranged. When we moved in together it all changed. She went from attending full time kindergarten to a half day program. I did find a daycare program for her for the second half of the day, but had to pull her out because they were seriously mistreating her. I also just started a very demanding new job. My fiance does not start working until the afternoons. Because he is already home during that time he offered to bring my daughter to the bus stop and pick her up in the afternoon. Most days he is with her 30min-2 hour before I get home. Ive already made arrangements for her this summer. So this current set up would only last another month. He really is great and I appreciate how he's helping. I definitely try to do my part as well. He works every Sunday and I have taken on watching his son on those days. Recently he asked if I can babysit on a weekday morning because he had a meeting. He knows my schedule is packed, but I cancelled all my meetings for the day so I can help him out. Well he was talking to someone and casually mentioned that he got his ex mother in law to babysit that day instead. I guess he didn't think it was important to tell me that lol. He has a great career, but June is a slow month for him. We were talking the other day and he expressed that he feels I'm taking advantage of him for dropping off and picking up my daughter. He told me I should be paying him to do it to show my appreciation.... I was extremely upset about this. He is always saying how much he loves my daughter and that he thinks of her as his own. We are trying to build a cohesive family unit and work as a team. I do so much for his son as well and never throw it in his face. To me paying him as a babysitter is completely opposite of the life we are trying to establish. I really dont know if maybe I am unintentionally taking advantage of him, even though it was his idea. I would love some opinions please.