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The friggin nerve of BM

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Submitted by SummerMomma719 on Sat, 06/22/2013 - 2:15pm

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So my mil asked us over today for for a cook out. Sd was dropped off at 12. DH came and picked me up after he got out of work at 1. We show up at my mil at 3 and BM is still here chilling on the couch playing with sd. And she won't leave. The friggin nerve!

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Submitted by YellowBelly on Sat, 06/22/2013 - 2:17pm

OUCH! I don't allow BM in my house or anywhere near my home. What about suggesting something like that?

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Submitted by SummerMomma719 on Sat, 06/22/2013 - 2:59pm

She is finally gone thank god. But every where we went in the house she followed. Got herself a drink. DH sent her a txt saying she was taking away his daddy daughter time. She didn't get the txt til she drove away. To come back and scream at my DH. I did everyyyyytjing I could not to say a word. But as much as I am not fond of sd I stayed with her and read her a book

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Submitted by AER83 on Sat, 06/22/2013 - 3:28pm

Glad you were the bigger person and stayed out of the fight with the bm. I am sure it was so hard to do! I would discuss with the dh about this arrangement after the sd is asleep. I don't think that arrangement is working out for any of you and I am sure it could get worse if it continues.

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Submitted by c-mom on Sat, 06/22/2013 - 4:16pm

We had this issue with MIL as well. DH told MIL, "If you want her here that is fine but she is no longer a part of my life beyond being the mother of my children and so if you expect me to show up for an event at your house, you better make sure she is not here or anywhere near here." And then he did not go to his mom's house for 4 months because she rented BM her apartment across the street. That solved that. However, this is an issue of disrespect from your MIL and your DH cowardly allowing it. That should not be accepted. If her presence makes you uncomfortable, bye bye BM. If you welcome her, then that is another story but it is obvious that she is not the type you want to hang around.

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Submitted by SummerMomma719 on Sat, 06/22/2013 - 4:40pm

I'm antsy to know why she came back and ripped DH a new one. I'm waiting to drop off sd to be filled in. The only thing I heard he tell was " don't ever ask me to drop her off again!" Meaning things just aren't going to change. For 4 years thatbtheybhave been split. On Wednesdays he goes and picks her up brings her over then drives back to drop her off. On his weekends the Fridays HE goes and picks her spends time then drops her off cause she won't sleep over. ....because she would have to sleep alone. (At home with BM she sleeps with her an doesn't have her own bed) so then AGAIN on Saturday HE goes picks her up does whatever and HE drops her off again because BM or the thee 7 people that live with BM won't drive her 20 minutes. Not even just to drop off at least. Ok sorry that was off topic a little but anyways... Can't wait to find out what she could have wanted