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What is she doing?
Personally, I believe happiness truely is the best revenge.
DH and I are happy with the exception of our crazy BM, and it p*sses her off to no end.
BM tried the "I want him back" routine, didn't work. If anything, it just made us stronger as a couple.
Last nerve is right on with this one.
If you let it get to you she is getting exactaly what she wants. Don't let it. Who cares if she wants him back? You have him, he wants you, F her!
Don't let it bother you girl. Happiness is the one ingredient to a lengthy marriage. Don't let her steal you thunder.
~Happiness is defined by the smile on your face, not the frown on others.~
Be happy and don't give her the control or satisfaction of
getting to you. Ignore her pathetic crap and learn to enjoy the absolute triumph and sport of making her wallow in her own ridiculous little life.
Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi (with some minor Rags modifications)
I agree, and at least fake
I agree, and at least fake it until you make it........don't ever let her see you sweat!
I agree with what everyone else said.
The only person you can fully control is you. Happiness is the best revenge. I truly feel sorry & pray for unhappy people. Does she take her issues out on the kids, and/or try to alienate them from DH? As hard as it is, you have to not give her the satisfaction of knowing that she gets to you. This site is terrific for venting, so vent away here! Just focus on being there for your DH and skids and taking care of them and you, and do everything you can to encourage the kids to form a good, close relationship with DH. Do things as a family. Do 1-on-1 stuff with each kid and have your DH do so also. Focus on building a strong marriage with DH, and if he hasn't set up appropriate boundaries with BM he needs to do so.
I agree Happiness is the best revenge
I agree with all of the above. Who cares if she wants him back there is a reason why she is an ex and that's what you have to keep reminding yourself. He has moved on with you and that's the thing that bothers her to no end. Realizing what is gone and she once had and not ever going to get it back.
DH and I will be married a year next month. Since our engagement BM has tried to stick her ugliness in our lives and we don't bend at all. Bm thought filing for custody and trying to prove DH unfit would split us up. So after 9 months of attorney's, depositions and her craziness she finally caved and wanted to settle.
BM tried her "I love him but can't be married to him" routine with me. An hour conversation was torture but made me realize She is living in the past and can't seem to move on. She's unhappy with her life and just wanted to make DH miserable in the process. Happiness is the greatest revenge!