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8 year old trying to look at porn

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Submitted by mimi611 on Sat, 03/02/2013 - 3:18pm

My BF's daughter (SD) was caught trying to look up S-E-X (her words) on her Ipad (that I didn't agree getting for her) with her two older cousins (10 and 11 yrs.) My BF was really upset, and asked her why she was trying to look it up. She said she was curious. He asked why she was curious and she said IDK. He's taking the Ipad away from her for a week and I told him he should talk to her when she's not scared and find out more as to why she is curious. My BF gets defensive when ever I try and give him advice, and didn't want to push the issue more, but he and BM had the kid when they were 19, his mother started having children at 16 and so did his sister. I'm 30, with no children, I just don't want SD going down the same path. He agreed to talk to her more about it when she wasn't scared, I hope he does. He only has her every other weekend, and the BM works 40 hours a week and doesn't put the kid in any extracurricular activities. To be honest the BM is kind of trash. I'm so scared for this little girl. I would welcome all advice.

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Submitted by smomof2 on Sat, 03/02/2013 - 3:28pm

how old is your SD? If she's younger than 10, I think it's just pure curiosity and nothing to get alarmed over. when my niece was 7, she asked my mom what SEX was-she's 9 now, an A student and is not boy crazy. I believe that it's normal for kids to want to know about those things, especially if she overheard her older cousins talking about it. Punishing her might actually do the opposite IMHO. When a young child says she's curious, it might be better to educate her rather than punish and/or make her feel bad. Looking up the word sex at 8, 9 or 10 does not mean she'll be a teenager mom.

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Submitted by Stepcop on Sat, 03/02/2013 - 5:31pm

This is exactly how my SD now 13 started out. Its been a rough road ever since. "Being curious" is a very popular phrase now. It could be she is curious, or it could be something else. I thought at 9 my SD was a little young to be that curious, both parents had had the age appropriate birds and bees talk with her and she wasn't satisfied, so she snuck on the laptop and typed in SEX. You don't get the wikipedia definition, you get porn. After an hour, she got busted. Its been a rough rough road ever since, of unscrupulous behavior and acting out. Be careful.

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Submitted by LittlePanda on Sat, 03/02/2013 - 5:36pm

Maybe buy her a book about sex and puberty. Something for young girls with illustrated photos. Explain to her that sex is natural but looking it up online is only something older people should do. If she has any questions, ask her parents.