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Dealing with disrespectful children

wellhereiam's picture

What does one do when they have a child that will talk disrespectfully not do things expected of them, And then talk to a parent in ways that we never would have as a child? I have a 14-year-old stepson that will tell me I'm a dickless piece of shit and a pussy while trying to have a corrective conversation about his behavior. Every attempt I make at helping him is said to be "me trying to start something" When I tell him he can't act in certain ways he tells me there's nothing I can do about it because he'll do what he wants. When we are full on arguing he will get physical and tell me to hit him so he can go tell his guidance counselor and get me in trouble and have his younger brother taken away from me. He will also tell me the usual that I'm not his father. I've been with his mother for 11 years and taken care of him since he was 3. I just don't know what to do anymore. Any help? 

Rags's picture

Video cams and audio recordings.  When he gets physical defend yourself, beat his ass, hog tie him, call the cops, press charges and get him the F out of your life.

Take his little  brother away my ass.  Take his family away, freedom away, put him in a penal institution full of true hard cases that will turn him into their sniveling bitch.

Write this POS kid off and don’t give him another thought.

SonOfABrisketMaker's picture

Look, I can only be so attracted to a man not my husband. So maybe you could tone down all this raw masculininity and give us ladies a chance to catch our breath. 

Otherwise, great advice. The nanny cams are an absolute must in this scenario. What does the child's mother say about this behavior?

shamds's picture

because op does not mention anything about the bio mum doing anything to discipline her child. My 20yr old ss has always talked disrespectfully to his dad excuses for everything and threatening to run away from home because his dad asked him to be a decent respectful human.

he has not sweared yet but he is rude in what he says saying its my job as a woman and housewife to deal with the kids and housework. Hubby has gotten to the point arguing actually fighting with him over the phone and ss just argues his usual bullshit. 

Hubby disengaged 2 months ago from 3 kids from ex, only contacted the eldest daughter to see how younger sister is with starting school etc.

op hasn’t mentioned anything about what the bio parents have done but in my opinion, if you are being threatened by this little pos, he is saying he wants to push you so that you can be taken away or they removed from your home where you set basic respectful manners and discipline, that would be a deal breaker for me because home should be a safe place

if a child is threatening to make it no longer safe, they can be shipped off to boarding school or one of those behavioural discipline schools

Rags's picture

Lol.  I was LMAO as I read this thread to my bride.  She shook her head, let some of the wind out of my sails,  told me to make sure to let everyone know that I am taken, then gave me my weekend honey do list. 

That I am taken is no surprise to the  STalker world.  I am done for. Very happily I might add.

I try to keep things simple, focus on resolving problems and try to cut through the weeds to the root action that eliminates the toxic.

Now I have to go do my honey do list for  weekend.  When it is done I will get my man card back from my brides purse.

So much for "all this raw masculinity".

Thanks for the laugh and the stroke to my ego.

Take care of you.

dysfunctionally_blended's picture

How does his mother react to this behavior?

First, demand respect in your home. And that starts with your wife. If she does not step up and parent her child then he needs to go. If he has no place to go then she needs to go with him. 

Stop arguing with a child. It isn't an argument. You are the adult, the end.