Our visitation is set out like this: On first and third weekends, we have both kids. On second and fourth weekends, she has both kids. The fifth weekend everyone stays home. Each party picks up kids, no one drops off. So, last Friday at 6pm we were to pick up my SS and Sunday at 6pm his BM was to retrieve him.

This is the first time my SS has come to visit us since March. He has been angry at us because we want him to be in school. See, he and DH were living together for about a year. SS got beat up at school and his mother said "If you come back to live with me, I'll let you be homeschooled." Right. At the time this woman was working a full time job, graveyards... and SHE didn't finish school herself! But homeschooling is not regulated in the state of Texas so there was nothing we could do. Shortly after going back to live with her, SS gets handed a truck. They allow him to drive whenever and wherever he wants. He even drove his little sister to school most days. He doesn't have a Driver's License! And guess what? In order for him to get his DL, he has to show PROOF OF ENROLLMENT. The last time he came to see us, he drove here, and we made them come and get his truck and wouldn't let him drive back home. So he wouldn't come see us anymore.

Anyway.

So the 16 year old SS comes to see us on Friday. He has a new tattoo on his shoulder. He says he is on probation for driving without a license. I spend most of the weekend working on an old iPhone to give to the SD on OUR PLAN. I go up to the store on Saturday to get a line added to our plan.

My SS and DH pretty much argue most of the weekend. Everyone is touchy, everyone is in a bad mood. Then BM says she can't come and get him because her car is broken down, but SS needs to come home now (4 hours early) because he needs to help her move.

#1 How do you move if your car is broken down? Are they carrying the furniture accross town on their backs?
#2 This is the second time they have moved in a month.
#3 She does this shit every time and DH always does whatever she wants him to do.

I point these things out to him but he still agrees to take the kid home (an hour drive one way). He promises he is leaving SD's old phone there with her mother. So he carries the brat home for her, but on his way out of the driveway he stops by me (I'm in a lawn chair watching my kids ride their bikes on the street) and he says "SD wants to keep her old phone." I say, "Well, we already paid for a new one and started a new contract."
DH agrees and they drive off. He returns a couple hours later and SD STILL HAS THAT OLD PHONE.

Now I'm the bad guy that doesn't want her to have that phone on her mother's plan and he's the hero that lets her do just whatever the hell she asks for.

I'm beginning to wonder... If his exwife and his kids get all their wishes granted and I just get stepped on... why am I in this picture at all? Just to mediate their fights and pay the lawyer? no thanks.