Anyone else think their Skid is a piece of...

no good lying through their teeth problem causing baby crying spoiled rotten little monster that can't do anything for themselves complaining non motivated life sucking chunk of human flesh? just curious...lmao

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I used to...until I realized

I used to...until I realized that one day my husband might feel the same way about my son and realized how badly that would hurt. *********************"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."

..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."

"If they sold clues at Walmart,I'd be first in line to get one for DH" ~the lovely Jbee~

hmmm.... I am assuming

hmmm.... I am assuming things aren't improving with your wife?

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

OK, this isn't funny!!!

OK, this isn't funny!!! Give me back my SKID before DH blames me for her being missing!!!!!

We all smile in the same language

Hahahahahahahahahahah!

I had a sd that was pretty

I had a sd that was pretty obnoxius and had learned how to manipulate her dad. Things didn't turn out the way she thought they would though and now blames me for EVERYTHING! It's been years since she stopped living with us and she still acts the same way! I am afraid that she will NEVER grow up! Her true colors have been showing recently and those people that she use to tell stories to about how evil her sm was are now seeing how she really is because she has turned on them! I am just sitting back and watching! My dh and my bd are having problems....not like what you are having because my bd is NOT allowed to be disrespectful and she doesn't really try to be either. However, there are times when they disagree about things and my daughter gets an attitude. I shut her down though when I see it because it is not her right since my dh is providing the food, clothes, roof over her head, car, internet, cable.....Until your wife realizes that she MUST stop her daughter from being disrespectful to you and other adults, there is not much you can do. Just try to survive until your sd is out if at all possible. If it is good with your wife when your sd is not around, then try to hang on! I didn't think I could do it, but am so glad that I did now because it is good. If your sd wants that room, then give it to her with the stipulations that she keeps it only if she is respectful to you and your wife. I ALWAYS gave my sd the best room of the house when we moved just so she would know that I loved her! She did lose the right to her own room for a period of time because of her bad behavior, but we did let her earn it back. (not the master suite though) My dh left it up to me (we moved several times)..... A therapist told me once that she has to know that you trust her despite what's happened. Boy, was that a tough pill to swallow! Anyway, I did what I could despite my sd's behavior and I feel good about myself AND I am still married to her dad even though I know that she has made several attempts to break us up and would be thrilled to see me gone!

I dont trust my sd because

I dont trust my sd because of who raised her. I know for a fact she does lie and manipulate to get her way. Many kids of her age do this because its the age...along with the environment , they feel they can get away with it. But i find it also depends on the person.
I know she constantly lies to her mother because she feels she's dumb and doesn't understand. There is some truth ot this..lol..BUt i've told her its your mother, she wont change, and you still need to show some respect..unfortunatley, bm doesn't show respect to anyone, including her kids, hence why sd is rebelling. She does manipulate her father to some extent, but rarely gets her way.
She doesn't get her way with me, and she doesn't try. She polite and very nice to me now adays...she used to ignore me, andi woudl ignore her back.She's seen me throw people out of my house and she knows i have a strong character who wont take crap ,even from the pope...hence why she behaves. BUt i know her character. I know what she is capable.
And i'm sure if she lived with us and didn't like me, it would be hell.
I consider myself to be in a very fortunate situ where bm is money hungry and controlling, doesn't have much in life, hence she focuses on her kids and needs her kids in her life regardless of the hell she is facing now.
I take it, things are worse?...its very sad that your wife would choose one daughter over 4 of her other children!!! I dont know what to tell you.
Maybe you should speak tot he ex husband and see what he knows on his end? What your sd has been saying..etc...i think maybe filling him in on details on yoru side may open up his eyes to somthing too......but i dont know the relations with exh..etc..etc..
Hang in there. Focus on the wife. IGNORE THE SD. FOCUS on your wife. Focus on her, when she turns the attention on sd issues, redirect them to the issue at hand. Remind her, is she willing to sacrifice the lives of the other 4 , just for sd. Will it be worth it, to destroy them at such a fragile age.???? Attack her mother instincts...If she has them for her daughter she should have them for the others. Keep bringin g up the other children.

Actually wife and I are

Actually wife and I are doing better with each other...I just can't help feeling like this when I look at skid regardless so I thought Id see how many others felt like that too lol

And this is funny to you?

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defense mechinism MM...if I

defense mechinism MM...if I don't laugh I will snap...and funny is the last thing it is...no one should have to go through this...especially the child...

Ok, I can understand that.

Ok, I can understand that. What if thinking this way though fuels our negativity/anger/resentment/even hatred towards the other person even more?

What if we wrote with love and repeated the positive aspects of that person over and over again in our head so that it might minimize the negative thoughts we have? If I continue to wallow in my negativity, thats all I'll be able to see, but If I can learn to bask in the good and the positives, maybe my way of thinking will form/shape to that as well.

I don't know your backstory here fedup - but sometimes when the approach we are currently taking isn't working with our situation and negativity, maybe we should try to exhaust all methods/approaches until we find one that works.

Currently, you're seething with anger at SD, while venting is good because it's a release...we must also follow that by taking action to change the situation...and sometimes that change has to come within ourselves first before it can come with anything or anyone around us.

I'm sorry you're going thru this.
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Poor you sounds like hell.

Poor you sounds like hell. I hate Step Daughters I must say - they are usually like their Mothers and end up being like having a second BM. Stopson's are not interested in the scandals and are easier to get on with! I will never date another man with SKIDS the Baby Mama is always in the middle - never moves on like the BF does - better off having a stressfree relationship. SKIDS are usually wank lol unless they are your own or as I said a boy/girl with a pleasant nature... any single men out there without the RETCHID skids lol

SKIDS are usually wank lol

SKIDS are usually wank lol unless they are your own or as I said a boy/girl with a pleasant nature... any single men out there without the RETCHID skids lol

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I still maintain that if you

I still maintain that if you are living with her you MUST find some affinity in your heart for her. Your attitude towards her is damaging her.

Selkie what I post on here

Selkie what I post on here is not how I treat or make my SD feel...quite the opposite...I, like most come on here to vent and get stuff off my chest. I understand that my wife has just as much to do with SDs issues as SD and her BD do...I make sure i'm not the guy that makes it anymore confusing. We talk often and have heart to hearts and she explains to me why she feels she has to do the things she does and I explain that I know why she feels that way and how bad i feel for her, but I let her know that at the same time, lies about us and our family are just something she can't do. Whether you agree with my style of parenting or stepparenting, I hope we can all agree that a child that lies not only consistently, but almost pathologically, is dangerous first and foremost to themselves. She actually feels like she lives two different lives, these words coming directly from her. Her lies have been so part of her life she actually has a hard time deciphering what is the truth anymore. How sad anyone, much less a child has to go through that...but it's been years of trying to get through to this child and getting her the help shes needed and trying to show her the way to a better life. And i'm prepared to help her for as long as it takes as long as my wife is on board and provides universal support for the family. HOWEVER, I am human and guess what..there are times like last night when you ask a question to skid, and know that after all your talks, and hard work and therapy and reassuring that there is no need to be afraid and lie, and you are LIED to that you feel like what I posted when you look at your SKID...

"We talk often and have

"We talk often and have heart to hearts and she explains to me why she feels she has to do the things she does and I explain that I know why she feels that way and how bad i feel for her..."

That's the part that I was missing from your posts. I'm glad you do have this relationship with her. From what you'd posted in the past, I didn't get that impression.

I stand humbly corrected.