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Yadira3992's picture

So i have a 3 year old step son and a 10 month old daughter and my step son is a handful he wont listen most of the time. He is with his biological mother for the most part. But it just seems that my husband's family (grandparents and uncle) show more love and affection to him than my daughter they buy him anything and everything let him get away with anything but they will always be fast to say my daughter is bad I mean come on she is 10 months she doesn't know what's right from wrong just yet. It's been really getting to me these past few days and I just dont know how to deal with it. My husband says that life isn't fair and I pretty much have to deal with his son being the favorite. It makes me really upset. Am I wrong for feeling that way. I dont know how or what else to do. Is anybody else dealing with this or have dealt with this. Help me

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DHsfamilyfromhell's picture

Your partner isn’t addressing the possibility that with ‘favourites’ his son may potentially use this status against everyone when he doesn’t get his own way. Ie playing people off against one another. 

No you can’t make people treat the kids fairly (this is a pain I know only too well unfortunately), but watch your back and keep your eyes and ears open. 

 

Crspyew's picture

Recommend changing your profile pic to something less identifiable.

i agree you can't make the grandparents & uncle treat or love your daughter equally.  But u can limit her exposure to people who treat her poorly.  Don't take her to visit them & don't let them visit in your home until they are ready to treat them equally.  If your husband doesnt like that remind him life isn't fair and your role is not to please his family but to love and protect your daughter. 

Serene1's picture

Inlaws have there way of doing things and they think its law. Its actually sickening. They act like that because the stepsons mother is not dealing with their trash and they know she might not let them see him if its any other way. Sorry you have to deal with that , just make sure you and your daughters bond is tight so she knows how to deal with them when she grows up.

wishandwhy's picture

Today is sad day but christmas will be hard this year. i moved to arizona with my soon to be 3rd time  mariage husband (yes the same man) I am a agent here now.. moving away from the girls was hard but the promise of travel to see them made it easier. i never questioned this due to the fact my husband works in idaho and travels weekly and im a friends fly free. well thats not the case he goes alone. he even books on another airlines so i dont go. at least thats what i feel. thsi christmas he did not invite me to his work party. first time. no he is not seeing anyoe there. to be honest i believe he doesnt like the fact i was catching him at those happy endings. thats a whole other story.. well i am at the point to where i cant take this any longer... what do i say to a man who has now made a choice without me to fly to see his step childern leaving me alone on christmas.. i mean alone he is my only friend i have no family just my doberman. im so sad i cant talk or breathe. he is staying in florida where his children are vistening there mother on college break. im thinkng the worst that he is spending it together with her with no care for me. im sad i miss my kids and he ont take me with him. why