My skids are just like my ex!
When I was venting to my DH about how poorly his kids treated me, dismissed me, ignored me and disrespected me it hit me like a ton of bricks. I realized that was the way my ex treated me! I didn't put up with from him (after years, that is) so I'm not about to put up with it from two people to whom I have no allegiance. Duh. AT least this epiphany didn't take 17 years to realize!
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Isn't it amazing how one day
Isn't it amazing how one day we just wake up and it hits us? I understand what you are going through. Sadly, I see this in myself in how my father treated me. I fight and bitch and everyone thinks I am evil, but I tell you, there is no doubt in my mind that the reason I allow it so many times is because of my father. I am 46 and still battle with this. Once I say no more, people start getting ticked off at me and calling me every name in the book. At this age, I am finally fed up.
DO NOT put up with it. You might want to read books about boundaries, etc. as they have helped me greatly. Good luck!
I really find it ironic that
I really find it ironic that when we "take a stand" against the rotten treatment we get, WE are considered the bad guys! I don't care anymore who likes or dislikes me; people who have treated me like shit is no longer on my priority list! And if that makes me a bitch, fine!
It first dawned on me when I
It first dawned on me when I started to put weight on that I lost before my divorce nearly 4 years ago. When I was married to my sperm donor (ACK - I just threw up in my mouth) I was not taking care of myself...having a lot of wine just to deal with looking at his face. I gained 30 lbs. One day, around the time I realized I loathed that asshole, I decided to join weight watchers. That was May 1, 2009 and I lost 30 lbs by Sept 1, 2009. I decided to take control of my life and take care of ME. Step one was feeling good about myself. Losing weight helped me greatly with that!
Fast forward to present day. I gained some weight back. I'm doing the things I did when I was married to the jerk because I feel the SAME WAY I did when I was married to the jerk! SO...off to weight watchers I go and in one week I lost 2.6 pounds and I feel I gained 2.6 pounds of freedom! I have a few more to go and each pound I lose will be a gift to me, a resurgence of MY power and a BIG eff you to the skids. HA
So take your power back pound
So take your power back pound by pound. Love yourself and let your motivation be that eff you to the bratty skids. It's so empowering. EVERY time I feel like putting something unhealthy in my mouth, I see their smug, ugly faces and say to myself "Oh HALE no! I'm not giving you bastards the satisfaction of making me fat" and I put the food down and get something healthy instead. I'm telling you, it's a HUGE motivator.
Good Luck!