Kind of feeling lost in my situation. I've been with the love of my life for the past three years. He has two kids from a previous marriage. Daughter 6 and boy 9. I love the hell out of them, but for the past year and a half it's continuously getting harder and harder. I've helped raise these kids since the girl was three and my bf even tells me that they are my kids too.

I've never grown up anywhere near devourse, not in my family or even my friends, so I have a hard time with that alone, let alone that there are two kids living with me that are another women's. When I first started dating my bf he had full custody of the kids and they were very well behaved. Their mother really didn't want anything to do with them, even on Mother's Day she was too busy going out of town with her boyfriend to be with her kids. So when I started dating my bf things were actually really simple.

But for the past year and a half things have been a living hell for us. Their monther finally decided that she wanted to be a mother and is now playing games to keep these kids favoring her. because my bf was in the muliarty his full custody went up for review a 1 1/2 ago and she has not been letting us see the kids. We've been in and out of the court system to see them and right now pretty much only get them fri-sun, mondays we are supposed to have them, but she goes to their school and takes them out halfway through the day so we can't get them. Child Services has a case against her because of this.

Since her having a bigger part in the kids lives I have seen a hugh change in these kids. Once well behaved and very sweet, now very bad, don't want to listen, and very demanding. I feel like the kids I fell in love with don't exist any more.

The girl is golden over at her mother's, always gets what she wants, everything has to be about her, and she want's you to do everything for her. I cannot stand this behavior, I have always been if a kid is demanding attention I won't give it to them, I was always a very quite kid and didn't want attention, so it is very hard for ne to relate to her, or to even think she is cute when she behaves like this.

The boy wasn't getting any attention from his mother at the beginning, so he was just craving love and effection from me, telling me he loved me at least 20 times a day. but now he is starting to get very desrespectful towards me. And since his mother is starting to buy his effection from him he is starting to like her more.

The kids are constantly wanting stuff for nothing, they are showing that they are spoiled and will like anybody as long as that person give them something. They are never satisfied with just finding something to do at the house, they want to always go somewhere or do something, or they expect me to entertain them. I feel like I have two very unsatisfied kids on my hands constantly.

I am 27 years old and work full time. My bf had to get out of the military because of the kids and has a job that he works until 8 sometimes 9, and same hours for the weekend. Everything is coming down on me right now and I feel like I am loosing my grip. I hate to even say this but I feel like my love for these kids are getting lost in all the frustration that I have been feeling. I want to be a good stepmom to these kids but I feel like I am in a position that I am always going to lose. These kids do not listen to their mother, nor does she really care what they do and lets them get away with everything, I am not like that, so I am considered the meany. My weekends are nothing but yelling lately. when my bf is around the kids don't do half the crap they do when I'm just there. And that just infurates me to no end. My bf hates that they are miss behaving and wishes he could be around more and hates that I'm taking the brunt of this, this is not something he is okay with. but I still feel like he doesn't know what I'm going through. I feel like I am the friking weekend babysitter. I want to come home on the weekends after a long work week and just relax, I don't want to yell anymore. I want to have kids that are my OWN, that call me Mom, that love me and respect me like Mom. I'm afraid of the future, if their mom lets them do whatever, and me and my bf don't, who do you think is going to have a difficult time? And how do I tell this to a man that is already stressed out about the outcome of his children. How do I tell a man that his kids, that he loves, are becoming too much for me and that this is not the life I dreamed for me and him? How do I tell him I'm scared and fed up and HATE the fact that he married and had children with such a low life, when I know he already feels like crap about it? How do I tell him I don't know what to do anymore, and am crying all the time and even right now? How do I tell him I love him but I'm not happy?