lack of respect for my fiancé
i have realized that i have no respect for my fiancé based on how he is with his 10 yo daughter. always making excuses for her behavior. always looking for the positive in every stupid thing that she does or says. always blinded by her. always buying into her pity parties. always falling for her incredible acting. always allowing her to make him look like a fool. always desperate for her love, attention and acceptance.
does anyone find themselves lacking respect for their boyfriend/husband/fiancé due to his lack of parenting his spawn? i feel revolted lately.
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I personally wouldn't be with
I personally wouldn't be with a man that I didn't respect.
Are you planning on staying in this relationship?
not long term. no.
not long term. no.
why short term then? Just
why short term then? Just break it off.. no sense in everyone being miserable. He isn't the man you need for him to be.. he is not a good father.. not a good partner.. why hang around?
we live in a very expensive
we live in a very expensive area and i need to figure out how i'm going to be on my own. i do not want to burden my friends and i have no family in the area. i also want to keep my job so relocating is not an option.
I lost respect for my husband
I lost respect for my husband b/c of the insane baggage he comes with. The hcgubm, the alienation, abusive son, and his family being so so sad he is divorced. Making our "wedding" day the most non-rememberable day of my life.
He was a decent parent. Bit lax on the involvement side but didn't let them run wild.
He has some other past relationships that make me gag.
I thnk once you lose respect
I thnk once you lose respect for a person, it's REALLY hard to have a solid relationship. That lack of respect is going to come out in little ways.
If you're not planning long term anyways. Get out. There's no need to prolong it. It's time to focus on finding something that makes you happy, whether that's being alone for a bit, or finding someone new
I don't know how half the
I don't know how half the people on here respect their partners. Good for you for realizing it. Now get out of the relationship.
He is never going to change. It’s only go to get worst
She is at the age where she knows she is winning the war. No reason to lose respect for yourself. By putting up with being lower then SD. This is not how adults think, They should put there SO first. Kids need to be taken care of not the controller of the home
If I had to do this again...
If I was in your place, since the relationship is still newer, I would walk away NOW. I stayed with DAH, and have been married for over 30 years. At 15 years married I lost a lot of respect for DAH, because of SD, from 15 years to 25 years married, I had no respect for DAH, the only thing that kept us "together" was that he was a long haul trucker and I didn't have to see him everyday, otherwise I think I would have told to leave. At that time I still had love for DAH, but I didn't like him at all.
In 2017, after 27 years of marriage, I grew a spine and told him off and set major boundaries with him and SD. DAH saw the light and pulled his head out of his ass and became a father for the first time in his whole damn life. He put me as his priority, not adult leeching SD. For the last 3 years he has been working on gaining my respect, but in the back of my mind to this very day, I have my guard up for him to slide back into the asshole that he was. I have come to respect him, love and like him now, but it was super hard work for both of us.
Don't waste your life, on a relationship that you are always waiting for the other shoe to drop, to be the reason to leave and live a happy life. Live a happy life now!
Respect
How can a relationship thrive without respect? Once respect is gone, love is next.