This kid is incapable of doing anything on his own
Is anyone else's skid incapable of doing anything without asking their parent? SS17 is a smart kid. He's attending college classes at the University as a Sr in High School, while also attending high school. He has plans for college and a career and I believe he will do it. But he lacks common sense and can't even do the most mundane things without asking DH about it. DH and him are CONSTANTLY texting- if DH gets a text, I have to stop myself from sighing because I know who it is. And DH drops everything to respond immediately.
We were at a party on Sat. and SS texts asking why his brake light stopped working. Then he text again and said he checked his brake fluid and he is almost out so that is why. Sigh. DH text back and asked him if he was low on blinker fluid also...
Yesterday at the parking garage for college, an old man who works at the garage tripped as he was handing SS his parking ticket and fell head-first into SS's car door, denting it with his HEAD, and was lying UNCONSCIOUS on the ground. What did SS do? Called DH and asked what he should do. I mean, he is 17-1/2, this feels like a no-brainer, you call 911! I guess there were other people around, but no one called 911, and the guy started coming to. SS told the people around him he had to get to class so they were like, just go, so he went to class.
Then last night SS was at the store and his check engine light came on, so the texts started rolling in. I do get that. It's just the combination of everything.
The other day SS came downstairs twice- once to ask DH if he should play a certain player in Fantasy football (DH didn't even know who the guy was and told him it was up to him), and another to ask DH which essay topic he should choose....he said initially he picked "Something you are passionate about" but wanted to know if he should change it to a different topic, and then asked DH what specifically he should write the essay about....as in, DH should tell him what he's passionate about. Last week he text DH to see if DH could look at his laptop, which was bought new last year but now for some reason isn't working.
It is exhausting, and I'm not even the one getting these texts. But DH is SO enamored with SS that he just eats it up and happily picks up the phone to immediately respond, even if I'm in the middle of a sentence. I have started saying "I was talking" when he does this. It honestly infuriates me- it's so rude, you can wait 30 seconds to respond.
It makes me wonder how SS will function on his own- most likely he will still be texting DH nonstop. Even at Crazy's, he will text DH for every little question he has. Crazy is crazy, but ask your freaking mom sometimes!
Also, I overheard SS say that DH had given him $ for new shoes, and heard DH mention paying for school fees that SS racked up by losing a chromebook charger and some other things. But when I mentioned that we have to pay a bill that is DH's responsibility to pay, DH said to me, you do know I'm poor at the moment, right? I said, Ok we are going to fight if that's your response, because I heard that you just gave SS $ for shoes and are paying for his fees at school?? (DH claims he is only paying for the AP class costs, not the charger), but when I tell you we have a bill that we have to pay, you give me a hard time. I'm not going to pay for everything just so you can pay for all of SS's things and bail him out of everything. He didn't have much to say to that. I can already see how college will be - DH bailing SS out of everything.