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At a crossroads...

Tmr43's picture

:? Well I have read numerous blogs and I gotta be honest, it scares the bejeezus out of me!!! I know if I stay with him then I'm signing on for a hard life. I broke up and moved bk to indiana 2 months ago so we've bn talking but are long distance. I hear alot of promises but I don't see much action. I know his daughter has mental issues along with being immature and spoiled... It would be a long journey. My children are grown, I am now a grandmother... I don't want to go bkwards and need a babysitter or have a child knocking or sneaking in the bedroom early on wkends. I want to relax and enjoy life now, go to wineries or go away for a wkend without all these obstacles. I raised my children and I don't want to raise someone elses. I love my bf alot and idk if I'll regret this, but I think I might regret it if I stay with him bc I already resent some things. So after reading comments and blogs, I signed up on a dating site lol!!! If I don't I won't leave this relationship bc I stay home etc. anyways I'm looking forward to meeting a man with no young children. A man in the same phase of life as I am .... And I pray I can move on and let go. I'm very torn. But I just don't want that kind of life or responsibility. He needs a woman who doesn't mind having a young child and one with problems. It would be in his and his daughters best interest. I hope he lets me go, I try to leave and he begs me to stay with him and promises things will be btr and how much he loves me etc... It breaks my heart so I stay. I super love him. If he didn't have his daughter I'd marry him. Butttt he does have her, and I can't handle it. She overwhelms me and I resent so much already and would have minimum 10 more yrs of this ... And with her mental issues she'll prob always be there. And I def don't want that. This should be my time... I get to enjoy my children as adults and I so enjoy being a grandmother... I don't think I would be happy around his daughter and bm. He chose that life, not me. Sounds so simple and yet its so hard to let him go. Tomorrow I'll tell him. He's sick today so I didn't say anything. I hope I'm doing right thing???

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Tmr43's picture

Thx... I'm still 2nd guessing myself but I just reeeeaaaally don't want that lifestyle ... I'd love to be with him, but not with the daughter and bm. I just gotta keep myself busy and distracted ...

love_my_shichi's picture

Someone made a good point to me once. Because I hate my skids, and I like lots and lots of other children. It is a possibility to meet someone else too with like grown kids...who you actually like. Not all kids are selfish, entitled, lazy, spoiled, cuckoo's. Not that you want to go that route again...I'm just saying someone pointed that out to me and when my future step son had a remarkably well mannered and charming friend over I was like Hmmmmm....they exist.