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Tired2010's picture

Submitted by Tired2010 on Thu, 07/22/2010 - 5:20pm

For the summer i took my step-son to his grandparents house for the summer. I was so so happy because it gave me a break. He really does things to bother me, but when i bring it up to my husband its like , its not a big deal. Well, while he was gone I thought that would give us some bonding time together... hmmm I thought wrong. For the majority part of the summer was pure sadness for me. its like our relationship is falling apart.

Now, i have to prepare for the child all over again. I am wondering if he will come back worse or better. its kind of scary!!! Sad

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StepX2's picture

Submitted by StepX2 on Thu, 07/22/2010 - 5:26pm

What types of behavior does your SS do that is troubling?
It is upsetting to have your concerns brushed off so easily by your husband.

starfish's picture

Submitted by starfish on Thu, 07/22/2010 - 5:27pm

seems bios always defend their spawns and don't see their issues/faults~~ many posts about this behavior on this site...

good luck

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Submitted by KeepsGettingBetter on Thu, 07/22/2010 - 8:38pm

It certainly does sound like the main problem is your relationship with hubby.
When it came to my kids it was very very hard for me to take any advice that Dani had to give about the kids especially since she didn't have any bio children herself, I felt like "who are you to tell me, I have 3 kids and you have none". What I found use to work for us was when Dani had an issue and I was blind and not listening to her she would write a letter to me and leave it for me to read in my own time. This way she was able to think about what she wanted to say so it didn't sound harsh or like she wanted to just get rid of my kids, which is always how I took it when we were arguing.

Your man will always have his back up when it comes to his children, most parents do (its the Rose Colored Glasses Symdrome), and when talking and in the heat of the moment it's hard to censor your words. A letter will give you time to say all you want and in the correct way without sounding like all you want is to get rid of his child.

JMO. Good Luck.