what to do about christmas
We have the new kind of family mine, his and ours. We have been together for 8 years with a six year old together, I also have a 15 yr old daughter that lives with us at all times, and he has a 12 year old son that only comes over for christmas', he doesn't live far from us but don't like to come over due to my rules and his dad doesn't push the issue, I am trying to get a budget together for the kids, but do I have to spend the same on him? My family don't even know him cause he's never around at first I felt bad about them not getting him anything, but now I know how they feel. Does this make me a bad person and what should I do?
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What are your DH's thoughts
What are your DH's thoughts about it? Or have you discussed it with him yet?
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Not really, he thinks I
Not really, he thinks I spoil the girls and don't keep track of what I spend anyway, but the stepson only wants gift cards.
I think the gift card is a
I think the gift card is a good idea. We don't get the skids too much, just a few small things because they already have a big Christmas at BM's.
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“The challenge is to help couples turn "I Do" into "We Can."
I don't think it makes you a
I don't think it makes you a bad person as you have no relationship with this boy, so don't feel any sense of responsibility towards him. Your DH on the other hand, will do, so I think you need to bat it over to him.
Thank you I just needed
Thank you I just needed someone to tell me I'm not a bad person, what do I do about Christmas without making him feel left out?
Is BM planning on getting
Is BM planning on getting him Christmas presents to open before he leaves or when he returns?
In our home I try to get my kids an equal amount of gifts and try to keep it around spending the same amount of money also. How do you handle it with your Bio kids?
If you try to get an equal amount of gifts, you could also get SS an equal amount of gifts, but smaller items, such as the gift card, a book, if he likes Axe you can get him the body wash/deodorant set, etc. Set a budget for him to where he's included in opening just as many gifts, but don't equal in the amount you've spent on the biokids.
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“The challenge is to help couples turn "I Do" into "We Can."
Thank you, I totally got
Thank you, I totally got that!! That's such a great idea, not the same amount of money but the same about to open, I can do that.
BM doesn't get him hardly anything unless the county pays for it, that's why I didn't know about the gift cards either.