Moving out , update
So, a lot of people were really awesome and supportive when I posted last month. I came back from vacation and started looking for a room to rent, and I found one. I still have one week living with bf and his son, but my anxiety is so much less knowing that this will not be my home in a week.
feeling like a nasty person, wish I didn't feel this way but I just am grossed out by this whole situation. I find myself feeling completely resentful and quite frankly jealous of the kid. I recognize this is not healthy although I'm not sure how abnormal or uncommon it is. Thing is, I was a great and responsible kid and my mom treated me like crap so when I see this useless surly dummy getting so much praise it just grosses me out.
i know I'm an idiot for getting involved with this man. Someone who just brings a kid in the world with practically no planning stability is definitely not for me. I'm going to really have some thinking to do but I know this will not be a forever thing, I'm just going to continue seeing this guy and make it as casual as possible, cause I don't want to be part of the circus anymore. This crap is just very below me, I'm sorry it sounds so arrogant.
thanks to all who have been supportive on here.
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You're still gonna see him as
You're still gonna see him as friends, or date after you move out? Don't get sucked back in!
My plan is to just keep it
My plan is to just keep it casual. Like I can deal with hanging out with him, having a physical relationship, but I want to change my life and devote much more time to friends and personal hobbies. Like this is all something I've been realizing in the past couple weeks that this is NEVER NEVER NEVER going to be okay for me. It's just not. And I'm the type of person who sort of needs to do things gradually so they hurt me less.
appreciate your concern , I promise I will not be sucked back into this crap hole apartment and lame life!
While I understand the need
While I understand the need to do it gradually, still seeing this guy keeps you in that life, whether you live there or not. If this situation is NEVER going to be okay for you, why waste the time with this guy, when you could find someone way better who better suits your wants and lifestyle? I would cut my losses and try to find a better catch.
^^^ This. Based on what you
^^^ This. Based on what you've written, you're wasting your time on this guy. It might be better to rip the bandaid off and move on.
Don't do it! Just run far
Don't do it! Just run far away and block. What's the point in having a physical relationship with him? Better to find a fbuddy with whom you don't have any emotional connection. NOT WORTH IT.
Yeah I think you guys are
Yeah I think you guys are definitely right. Conversation was had today and basically I got the same "you don't do enough why don't you ask him to go to the store with you. I had a girlfriend with a child (said child was 6 mind you not 15) and I made such an effort to get to know her" and I just rly saw red. What the actual fuck is going on here.
im leaving ASAP, can't deal with such a pathetic man.
Good for you
Let us know when you've safely moved out. We'll all be waiting to hear.
Why in the hell would you
Why in the hell would you want to take his 15 year old son to the store with you? Move out AND move on.
I know. It's probably the
I know. It's probably the dumbest suggestion ever. I've already spent pretty much a year trying to make small talk on the daily, I've partaken in his birthday gifts, bought him snacks and candy , etc, and oops wow all this time I just had to take him to the store! What a dummy I am !
Hahahaha! So it is YOUR fault
Hahahaha! So it is YOUR fault his kid sucks?
Thank you. he just has a
Thank you. he just has a shitty kid and can't admit it. Normal I guess, I'm not a parent so I don't have that problem of seeing them much better than they are. It'll be interesting to see how this denial further fucks the kid up.
I will, I appreciate you all!
I will, I appreciate you all!!!!
Run like the wind. You're
Run like the wind. You're almost there! Keep going all the way to being solo and dump this loser. Take some time and reflect on this relationship and what you want and don't want out of the next one.
Yes i cant wait. I hate being
Yes i cant wait. I hate being here. SO just gave "SS" 100€ To buy clothes which the creature does not deserve at all. Just grosses me out. Praying the next week goes by super fast and I don't have to witness this pathetic situation anymore.
No, no, no, no, no.
Do not keep seeing him. No more sex with this failed husband, father, and equity life partner.
IMHO there must be absolutely zero chance that you could pollute your gene pool with this idiot. Zero chance. Unless you are going Elena Bobbie on his winky and then dropping him off at the Vet to be neutered just call it quits and get on with your life completely.
The number of SP's who pollute their gene pools with abject parental failures is always mind boggling to me.
Sorry, my older guy protective instincts are coming out. Just me careful and take care of you.
yeah.. I think ultimately
yeah.. I think ultimately youre right that theres no point in carrying this on in any way shape or form. My resentment toward the kid if undying and I don't think theres much to be done about it because stbx is not going to change and demand any respect from his pathetic spawn. Stbx is also, kid aside, just an average or even below average partner. He relies on his charm and looks and wit to clean up all of his disgusting messes he makes. He also will never admit that the child he played a part in creating is nothing like him, looks and personality of the mom 100% and Im sure that destroys him, because he hates her. it pisses me off too because I have to tolerate a kid that not only belongs to another woman but looks and acts nothing like the guy that Im with in the first place. gross.
anyway, sorry about going on and on. I don't want to be here anymore. My feelings will never be understood. its bull.
Thanks for your input about this.
Just to add to the many
Just to add to the many reasons to break up completely with this ... ummm, person. Any time spent on any kind of relationship with him, is time when you might otherwise meet the right guy for you. In order to meet the right guy, yoiu have to be totally free of any fetters or millstones. Dump him and forget him.
i know, winterglow.. I am so
i know, winterglow..
I am so glad I have this network of support. I just have to tolerate 2 more days, moving in on Saturday. Im just trying to remind myself that I don't need to accept other peoples shitty lifestyles and rude spoiled kids or toxic parenting styles. I am going to be chanting that for the next few days for strength.
Thanks!!
Only two more days!! How
Only two more days!! How exciting! You got this!!
Thank you !!!! I'm rly
Thank you !!!! I'm rly excited about not having to live there anymore, and in a clean reasonably organized place that's not infested with pests and doesn't have random clothes and objects lying all over the place.
Well.
Now the current tenant decided to stay until the end of the month. Originally they were going to let me move in early without charging me. So stuck here for another week.
im okay, there's nothing bad going on i just really was looking forward to having a place to emotionally detox and just stop waking up here to have my feelings ignored.
Aw heck. Please be sure that
Aw heck. Please be sure that the current tenant isn't going to drag things out month by month. I'm sorry you're having to put up with this but at least it's only temporary.
Thank you for the kind
Thank you for the kind support. Just trying to lean on friends and spend time outside the house during this time. It sucks cause I feel like the only "home" I have is a dump. But It will soon be different.