My 19 year old stepson stole of me on my birthday and then raided my account whilst i was on holiday, i was so upset and his father did nothing about it, I overheard his father ask him to apologise to me and my stepson said " why should I " I was very hurt because i have done so much for him yet he just keeps stealing and lying.
It caused many rows in the house and I moved out 4 times in total over it, he also compares me to his mother all the time and puts me down, his mother told me she cant stand having him around because he steals from her, the worst thing for me is my partner wont deal with it and makes excuses for him, he runs around after him and gives him money whenever he needs it, my son lives with us too and he gets nothing, stepson also steals of him....... as it happened it got so bad a month ago that I told my partner I was leaving and not coming back unless the stepson leaves, i told my partner i would never stop him from seeing his son and i would help where i could ie washing etc, my partner agreed to this and my stepson has moved in with a friend a week ago, My partner paid for his board, the deal was that I would stay out of the relationship completely and then there would be no conflict, however yesterday my partner telephoned me and told me he was on his way to collect some clothes even though I had suggested we drop them to him the day before, i was really uncomfortable with him coming to the house and told my partner he had gone against his word and could we drop his clothes of to him later, my partner started to become hostile towards me and demanded I let him in, stepson banged on the door over and over until I eventually let him in, he then went upstairs and had a shower, he throw his clothes on the floor and left with nothing, i was furious, as he left he laughed at me, to him its a game, he has always caused problems and I really dont like him anymore...I dont think it will all be plain sailing in the future either because his father does nothing, his father is the problem here, I have 3 teenagers and none of them would treat me this way. my partner also told me that if his son moves out then my son has to move out too which is totally unfair, my son is living on a mattress at his brothers house, my emotions are all over the place and I feel totally alone.
My stepson has also ran up huge debts with loan companies and mobile phones, he paid no board when he lived here and swore at his father, he has caused many problems that I have not even mentioned and they are always directed at me not his father,
My partner now resents me because he has left, im thinking of throwing the towel in and leaving, i never wanted any of this to happen and believe if my partner dealt with the problems it would never have come to this...any suggestions would be greatly appreciated..thank you