Do i stay or run away.
:? Hello everyone.
Ok so ive been dating my bf for 2 years now.We have a beautifull 8 month old daugher together.He has a 10 yr old d.9 yr old s.The realtionship has been quite difficult when it comes to the kids and the x.The x is poison.I dont know exactly what went wrong in my bf and hers relation ship.But i can guess..he can be an ass.controling rude disrespectifull...his bad side,Is now her.Evil...she would not take care of her kids for 6 months that i dated him..so things were cool.She came and went as she pleased..had them when she wanted.All of a sudden she wakes up and wants and gets 400 bucks cs from bf.Half half visiting time.Starts treating him horible..treats the kids bad and hates me..Guess she was done having her fun..after cheating on my bf and running around like shes a teenager with now responsibility.
I swear right after i had my daughter..she was so jelious and mad.She brings my d and myself in arguments that her and my bf have about her being responsible for her kids.She has not worked in almost a year and uses my bf child support for her own selfish needs.Now her sick mind wants to fool my bf by pretending to be nice...being good and kind with the kids.Sending pics of her d with my bf when she was baby.So the attention is on her.For 4 months his kids could not stand my baby or any i mean any attention that my bf would give the baby or me.Very Very jelious and angry..its like she turned them against me and my daugher.but had my bf conviced that she was changing and being nice..
Finally i had eniouf i left my bf..i told him all the reasons why.He never stuck up for me and my daugher.. let his kids act rude and mean to the baby.never ending....
One week later..hes sorry and misses me and her and wants us back in his home.He promises to be good by us and not jst treat us like were no body to him.We are jst as important as his kids.We move back things are great hes being a parent to him kids and loving and kind to me and our d.Were all getting along great.....One night i go to wrk and his x comes to our house to pick up her kids.She crys to my bf telling him how sorry she is for treating him bad...sorry for the way she talks to him..Oh and to top it off she is moving out of state and that they are going to have to work something out with the kids.Funny how now she is nice again.Its like she has to be all dramatic jst to get anykind of attention from him.He is pleased with her appology and thinks its real..I believe diffrent.
Please someone give me an answer...what if she is jst playing with him again.being nice so the attention is on her.and next week she is a b again.Ill tell you..she never appologized for treating the kids bad.Its not even about her and my bf..it should be about the kids.Never did she appologize for how she had treated me or my daugher...She is a snake...im afraid something bad is going to happen.I saw her at the kids music prog last week.For being so sorry...i knew i felt like someone was watching me as i sat waiting for the kids to sing.Caught her staring me down with this evil ass look.
She needs to quit playing games.....or ill loose it.I dont want to be with my bf with all this bs drama..How do we fix her..loosing my pacients.
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You can't fix her. She'll
You can't fix her. She'll probably be doing this until the day she dies. You either have to deal with it or move on. I am in the same situation and quite frankly, it sucks. Luckily my DF is not fooled for one minute by BM's antics. Hopefully one day your bf will realize he's being manipulated.
I'm sorry.
yes thank u.i hope he gets it
yes thank u.i hope he gets it also.its not easy when only u c it.:(
BM is always much nicer just
BM is always much nicer just before we find out she has done something awful. I am always more alert when she is being nice. Say how you feel to your bf and then leave him to work it out for himself. Sometimes, the more we react, the more BM gets what she wants.
What worries me most in this is that BM is saying she is leaving town. Is that right? In our BM's vocabulary, "working something out with the kids" has always meant she wants custody. That is one angry BM. I know because we have one.
Do everything you can to support bf at this difficult time. If he doesn't stand up for you though, maybe some counselling might help.
Focus on you. Focus on making a happy home with happy kids. Be amazing and beautiful through all the stupid drama. Come here to vent. I have been through the same as you. It was hard for me to trust the my DH would keep our family safe. Do you trust him to keep you safe??
yes thanks for the advice and
yes thanks for the advice and comments.i really will wait to see her next action and talk to bf about it.And yes i know he would be very protective if she was right in our face..he jst doesnt see a text about her hating on my d or little rude things the kids do as very bad.So..thank you all i will def keep u posted.Yeah i think she is mad and pretending to be nice..but that she is trying to take the kids now..to where ever she plans to go.but my bf will not even consider it...she has been so evil and unattentive to the childrens needs.it is not in their best intrest to be with her in general..let alone another state.Hopefull he doesnt get to crazy...and they have an all out in court....now that she is "doing better"...pretending or not..he should of took her ass back to court long ago.When she first started screwing up...