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snoopyinoz's picture

Soooo stay puff (BM) calls DH at 1230 bitching that she "can't get OSD to eat" ok first of all what in the hell are they 1) still doing up 2) why didn't the sitter feed them and 3) why in the hell are you feeding them "supper" at 1230?!? BM wanted DH to "call the kids and talk to them" so he does. YSD answers the phone and asks to speak to me. Ok no biggie. I get on the phone and YSD tells me that OSD wouldn't eat soBM FORCED FOOD INTO HER MOUTH! (OSD is 11) oh FUCK no! I ask to speak to OSD. YSD tells me OSD doesn't want to talk and is throwing a temper tantrum (for those of you that have read my blogs, OSD throws temper tantrums like a 3yo. Yelling screaming crying throwing things ect) I tell YSD to put OSD on the phone NOW! OSD gets on the phone and is 1) crying so hard she can't breathe, 2) sounds like she's about to puke. I get her calmed down and she tells me that yes BM held her head and nose and forced food into her mouth. I hand phone back to DH. I. Am. Beyond. Pissed.! This woman has crossed a line already because DH and I find out that her GF who was ordered to move out for summer visit is STILL LIVING THERE, so this little stunt is just icing on the cake. Gee wonder if a judge will look at this and say "well BM keeps disregarding court orders, and has gone from mental abuse of OSD to borderline physical abuse lets go ahead and keep allowing her to see the kids unsupervised hell lets just give BM a sticker and a gold star!" her constant bullshit is wearing pretty goddamn thin here. DH is going to call the atty in the morning about the GF and tell her about this shit.

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snoopyinoz's picture

And yes I know DH should have told BM "your parenting time your problem" but he didn't. He wanted to find out from the kids what was going on

just.his.wife's picture

Call your attny, then see what he/she advises.

If it happens again, call CPS, IF you truly feel it is abuse. Remember: abuses causes injury and/or lasting harm.

Honestly? Sounds like SD11 has been feeding BM that attitude she was feeding you and your DH for several weeks before she left and BM decided come hell or high water the kid was going to eat.

Did it hurt the kids feelings, prolly. More than likely it just pissed the kid off because mom was not letting her have her own way. Was it actually abuse? honestly, not from the sounds of it. Also sounds like the kid went on a rampage afterward and instead of blistering the kid to get her to behave, BM called her dad.

So, first decision of feeding them so late: not a good idea.
Second decision of force feeding the kid: not a good idea either.
Kid goes off the rails: she calls the CP for help instead of slapping the kid (or worse) Probably BMs best idea of the evening.

I would be calling the attorney over the GF issue though. Likely he will need proof, and you will end up calling a cop for a wellfare check, in which they will lie to the cop, "No shes not living here, she just came over for a lil visit". So you end up with no proof, aside from the kids say so, and they can't (or arent supposed to) testify in court.

Sucky situation to be in. Sad Sorry hon.

snoopyinoz's picture

BM has a history of calling DH for ANY little reason because she does not like OSD. BM has proven this time and time again. BM also has problems handling either SD because BM was raised to believe that she doesn't have to do anything and that the kids will raise themselves. As for "abuse" BM has in the past locked OSD in her room from the outside, denied her food, slapped her, pushed her onto the floor and mentally abused this kid. Calling her fat, lazy, stupid, dumb, worthless and not to mention told her on numerous occasions that OSD would be "better off dead and to go kill herself" and BM is also notorious for letting the kids "have their way" just so she doesn't have to put up with them

just.his.wife's picture

Then yes, you have a history of abuse and I would be making a lot of phone calls today.

Tons of them. To everyone and anyone who could listen and help the kid.