BM wants to change skids last name so that everyone would know she's the mother and not me

Since finding out about me and SO almost two years ago, BM has been on a mission to make sure that everyone out there, especially me know and acknowledge that she's ss4 and ss5's mother and not me.
Almost every single time BM and I cross paths, she would yell at me and say "I am the boys mother and you will never be". It's super annoying.

When she found out a month ago that SO and I are getting married, she told him she wants to "make sure that SO tell the kids who their real mother is". Every week in the last month, BM called, texted, and emailed SO about this issue.

Now BM sent an email to SO telling him that she wants the boys' last name to change. she would like BMlastname-SOlastname. Her reason for this? She said when SO and I get married and I change my last name to his, she wants to make sure that the school, Dr's office and everyone know that she's the mother and not me and the only way to do that, is to make sure that the kids have her last name too. She's threatening to take SO to court over this if he doesn't "comply".

As much as I want to be sensitive to BM's fear and what not, I think it's a joke that she's always quick to claim credit for the boys and yet would go out of her way to avoid spending time with them. This woman has 50% costudy and yet, constantly asks SO to keep the kids longer or pick them up a day or two sooner, etc... Not to mention, she can't keep a job or provide for them financially.

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There is no reason for her to

There is no reason for her to change the kids' last name. I don't know what a judge would say about it but I would imagine the judge would be pissy over her wasting his time over her insecurity. The sea donkey is like this. She isn't really involved with anything for SS and since my last name is the same and I'm involved in everything people automatically assume I'm the mom. She gets mad over this. Even SS's school administrator said "I'm so sorry Mrs. ____ we've never seen you before" She went nuts. But really she's never been up there and her last name is different what did she expect?

That is because this isnt

That is because this isnt about the skids it is all about getting to you and getting the upper hand on YOU & DH!!! She is a miserable, bitter, piece of jealous shit and she is using the boys as pawns in her little twisted game to get at YOU and DH. Plain and simple. Best way to get to you and DH is ALWAYS going to be thru/with the BOYS!!! And she KNOWS that quite well...

She is a loon. I also think

She is a loon. I also think a judge would laugh her out of court.

She seems to believe that she

She seems to believe that she as the mother has the right to change her kids' last name. she even said in her email that it's for her protection.
I don't know enough about the law to know whether or not a judge would grant a BM's request to change kids last name so that people wouldn't mistakenly think the SM is the kids BM.

In Texas...she is certainly

In Texas...she is certainly NOT allowed to change kids name without the fathers consent.

Can't happen without the dad.

Can't happen without the dad. She sounds nuts....Me, I wouldn't take DH's name as long as there was someone else in town using it...Also, my identity is with my child and his last name. I understand her wanting the same last name as her kid, but she does. She just also doesn't want you to have it. NUts...

Are you sure you want her last name? My BM is insane and a bitch and I did not want anyone to think those kids were mine and I was related to her....