So when SO came home from dropping off SS9, it was about 6:30 p.m. About a half hour later, a member of his family calls to let him know that one of his uncles had a stroke (he doesn't live in state). So then my SO started making all these phone calls I started to get a little angry. Selfish, I know, but it's how I felt. Not so much because of the family member, but b/c SO is not even close to his uncle, and he knows how I feel about ppl suddenly caring when something happens to someone they barely knew or had a relationship with. I didn't say anything though. He then proceeded to tell me all about his uncle (mind you, been with SO for 10 years and never once met this uncle), and his uncle's life story. All over the dinner I made for him. Needless to say, after about 2 hours of him yapping on and on, I opened up my bottle of E&J and began having a couple of drinks. It made it a tad more bearable. He then leaves to MIL's so that the family can plan on what they are going to do, then comes back home at say, 11:45 p.m.

At that point, I was already feeling a little inebriated, so I told him that my Vday kinda sucked this year. He then asked me why that was, and I told him, "you allowed ss9 to decide that you guys would stay at your mom's until he had to leave", and he says (again), "well he didn't want to come over here, what did you want me to do?" in that little whiny voice he uses when he knows he's wrong. I kind of snapped and said, "So what if SS9 didn't feel like coming over here? (he wanted to stay in MIL's b/c she allows him to play with a toy he just got, which we don't allow him to play with in the house b/c he just broke our mirror with one of his remote control cars not even a month ago) Out of the 52 weeks in the year, I NEVER asked you to abandon your son, or to do anything you or he didn't want to do. So what if for one day, you go against what he says and bring him here anyway, that day happening to be VDay?It's not what SS9 wants all the time, I have needs too. YOU are the father and HE is the son, not the other way around." Oh, boy. That's when SO sort of retreated and said that I hurt his feelings b/c I have a "So What" attitude towards his son. So does that mean that if I expect him to be with me (and I'm not excluding SS9) then what's the problem? Am I now officially selfish? And why did he hone in on the "so what" part? I think he didn't get what I was trying to say.

In all fairness, I told him that I knew he could not control the fact that his family member had a stroke, and I wasn't angry at that, but I did feel a little disappointed that we didn't get to spend time with each other to even watch a movie.

He said that today we'd be going to get gifts, and I don't want to feel like this, but I'm not in the mood. Wanna know where he is right now? MIL's!!!!!!