So we are leaving tomorrow on a family trip and SD is coming with knowing she has not stayed at our house for over a few months. We have her every other weekend and if you have read my past post she has been wanting to stay at other peoples house instead of ours. Now that we are going out of town she wants to be a part of the family. I really pisses me off how my Husband allows her to do what ever she wants. He givers her that option to come and go when she please and I asked him about it today. He stated well her actions has consequence and if she does not want to be a part of this family and try to use me as a pay check then that is on her. He stated he sees her games but still takes her shopping and is talking about taking her white water rafting but had not made the reservations because he was not sure if she was going. Then why even attempt to make them. We were suppose to have her all last week but since we did not have a lot going on she never came over. She also stated last night that she was going to a the pool with a friend and would be over afterwards to pack her bags. Like really. So many times I have asked her to come to the pool with us and she declined. I had to go to the store and get snacks for the trip and ended up not even asking what she needed. I guess if she is hungry then she can pay for her own snacks with her own money.
I also made the comment if he could talk to her about not being on her phone as much on this trip and he stated that he sees what she does and if social media is more important then us then she will be missing out on a lot of things. I will not be taking her shoping, etc... That is a lie. He will. He mentioned me taking her out shopping or doing dinner but since I have an 8 month old I do not plan on going out as much and if she does not like that fact we will be haning out at the pool there then she can go find something to do I guess. I really wish she was not coming on this trip. She is so disrepectiful and I can not stand being around her anymore because of how she hurts her dad. But then again he allows that. I also do not understand why he allows it. Why he just does not say well if you do not want to do things here at the house as a family then why go on a vacay? I hope I have the strenth this week to be nice and not negitive and not allow her to ruine my first vacay with my son.
She is 16 years old and honestly can not wait till she is 18. I really hope he stands by his word and does not do all the things she wants from him like getting a car or a grade party they she acts toward him, towards us. She missed out so much on my son's milestones and will state how she misses him yet she never is here. I asked my husband if he thinks she is embarrassed by us. She use to love with us full time but the min her mother moved into a 350,000 house with her new husband, she really started acting out. Do not her me wrong our house is really nice we paid 125,000 for it and have put in a lot of work. It's is slightly bigger then bio moms but all there stuff in that house is brand new. I do not understand how they can afford that house since bm have not worked in 7 years and step dad works at a small dealership.
Once we get all the things we want done to our house it will be worth about the same as there's if not more. I am glad we have projects to do around this house. It's fun making things to fit your stil not somone else's.
Everyday SD is more like her mother, fake, bougie, narsitistic, lazy, intitled, and disrespectful.
What are you thoughts, whould you take your SK on a vacay if they never came over unless they wanted something? Would you make them spend their own money on things since they did not want to go to the store or help pack up the car for the trip? Would you do things with SK knowing that is they only reason they are going is because they think they are going to get spoild and have more shit to bring back to their Mothers house?