Am I wrong to want Valentines Dinner on our own?
Well, he was gone for my birthday and his birthday and now he's home Valentines, usually returns skids on Sunday night, but they don't have school Monday, SO. He says we can go out for Valentines Day, "we can take the kids with us." NO. WTF? I have NO desire to go to dinner with them in tow - what at Chuckie Cheese's for Valentines. He is, as usual, clueless. So now I feel guilty because I want him to take them back on Sunday so we can have a NORMAL Valentines ON Valentines. I know he doesn't see them much, I know, but I work all week, now, he says oh, we'll just go another night. I'm sick of gonig another night. I won't get a card, flowers a gift. He just keeps asking me what do you want for Valentines, I wanna yell at him, "Go out THE HE** SHOPPING and pick somethign OUT!" D*** it.... He is so thick sometimes, sweet, but THICK. Sorry guys, this IS a venting website Right??? Smile : )
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Why can't you just tell
Why can't you just tell him...
Hey, I was looking to spend some alone time with you for a few hours on Vday because it IS a lover's holiday ya know**winkwink**, can we get a babysitter for the night, or maybe a few hours?
Would he go for that?
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Can you guys have Sunday
Can you guys have Sunday night together for Vday and he can just get the kids Monday morning?
Did you tell him you wanted to go out to dinner, just the two of you? I know my BF isn't the 'romantic' type so I have to actually tell him exactly what I want...it works out for the both of us because I'm not disappointed and he's not getting yelled at
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Valentine's is a couples
Valentine's is a couples holiday - for once the pair of you as a couple take precedence over any kids. Oh, and when he asks what you want for Valentines, just give him the very expensive options (I told my OH I wanted a particular Chanel handbag!)
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That's exactly what I've
That's exactly what I've decided, since he doesn't want to go the romantic option I'll just go for the watch I want option... I feel kind of second rate because he is like this. I feel like he thinks I don't deserve anything I feel small. Sometimes it makes me kind of sad. Then I remember all the trips we go on just whenever and I feel better, but I wish he'd realize Valentines is an opportunity to express yourself, your love and celebrate the wonderful life we have and will have in the future together. HE just doens't see it. He lives it doesn't see it!
eh...i just go the weekend
eh...i just go the weekend after. that is what we did last year. granted i got a card and flowers and gift on actual day...but i di not feel bad about SD being there...not this year either. it is just a day...so if he is willing to take you out another night, is it really a huge deal?
I won't get card or flowers
I won't get card or flowers on THe day I think that's what steams me. I think I'd be ok if we didn't ignore my birthday too.
I know how you feel. BM
I know how you feel. BM pulled a fast one and now we have the kids on VDay too. So instead we will be going out Saturday night and BIL will be watching the kids. I look at it more as quality time with my man. Which should happen whenever we can, not just on VDay.
I must be odd woman out. I
I must be odd woman out. I just don't care about Vday. I'm not big on gifts really. I'm a sucker for the little things. Dh puts love notes in my lunch bag every time I leave the house for the day and I get greeting cards for no reason at all. He got down on one knee with a Hershey kiss and asked me to be his valentine two days ago. It was sweet and that was enough for me (even better that he did it in front of Creature who complained she should be his valentine and he simply said, "sorry, kid, you're my daughter, vday is for my wife"). I probably will get a card and he'll probably make me dinner, but that isn't so different than some other days throughout the year. I'll be happy with it though. I guess it really is the thought that counts because he is thinking of me and not Creature or Wingnut. If Creature was here, I'd have to share dinner, I guess.
I see your point though, you don't get enough alone time with him to begin with. So sorry love.
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