Dating Etiquette Question For Bios
When you were a single parent and dating your potential partner, if you had custody of your child/children PT but desired to have full custody, did you disclose this information? I’m not here to judge if you didn’t, I’m more curious about the psychology behind it. We are anonymous here, so it’s okay to be honest.
This seems to be a pretty consistent issue that comes up here with Steps who have their kids FT. They entered the situation with a parent who had custody PT, committed to the relationship, then found themselves FT stepparents.
I’m assuming people have good intentions, and aren’t consciously misleading their partner. They must think their partner will grow to love having the child FT.
I understand people want to put their best foot forward while dating but on some level, a person must know their partner may find full custody overwhelming or else they would be up front about wanting full custody in the first place. Then everyone suffers. The child, the parent, and the step. I don’t get it.