I'm a criminal. Oh my.
Took Bozo & BH's household items over to Bozo today. He complained about social services having gotten involved with he and BH being homeless. Said BH had gone to school on Monday devastated about the loss of his home and told his counselor. His counselor notified social services who got in touch with Bozo. He has a week or so to get out of his parents home and into their own stable home.
Bozo claimed to have saved me from being arrested and sent to jail. The caseworker was supposedly furious that I put a minor into the streets without 30 day notice. So Bozo, didja tell her why you lost your home? That you'd had notice in January and May that your pot smoking was a choice to live elsewhere? Got two warnings in August and continued to toke at my house everyday for the week after the warnings? According to Bozo, they know all about his two DUI and two marijuana arrests across the years and don't have a problem with his substance abuse. I threw them out and that's illegal. Ok Bozo, I'm terrified.
Perhaps risky on my part, but I told Bozo that he and BH could be back in my home tomorrow if Bozo would go to AA meetings regularly and we all seek counseling. He wasn't interested.
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Glad to hear from you! No
Glad to hear from you!
No there is no help to be had, because Bozo doesn't really have a problem. Just kids being kids. RIGHT??? Well, you don't follow the rules, you get plenty of warning, then cry when you get consequences. BECAUSE no one, their parents, has ever given them consequences.
"Bozo claimed to have saved me from being arrested and sent to jail. The caseworker was supposedly furious that I put a minor into the streets without 30 day notice. So Bozo, didja tell her why you lost your home? That you'd had notice in January and May that your pot smoking was a choice to live elsewhere?"
Yeah, I bet he pumped that up a bit about the caseworker. And NO they didn't tell caseworker that you did it because he was smoking pot. You know what, you aren't their landlord or anything else. They were living with you in your home and there was no formal agreement for anything. So, there is no legal requirement for you to give them 30 days.
You did what was correct for you. Done. Now Bozo and BH, go whine somewhere else and fine some other woman to live off of. You are done with their crap.
Social services and the school counselor are mom and dad's problem. Not yours. They need to provide a home and necessities, not you.
So glad you are out of this!!!
Yep!! But You know what you
Yep!!
But You know what you could have been arrested for? Drugs on your property.
Bozo had close to $900 in
Bozo had close to $900 in cash seized from him around this time last year. He'd been stopped and flunked a sobriety test, at which point they yanked his "purse" out of the truck, searched it and found his pot and pipe. They took his money saying it was the proceeds of selling/distributing (it wasn't, I do know that for a fact) and would have seized his truck had he not pulled some strings with the owner of the towing firm and got it back before the law laid claim to it. He beat the "intent to sell and distribute" charge, but never got his $900 back AFAIK. My county is seize crazy.
Yes, Bozo's possession and pot smoking in my presence and on my property was very terrifying for me. Why take such unnecessary risk? How could you put the woman you claim to love AND your son in the middle of YOUR unnecessary and illegal risk taking? It is the opposite of love. Pure hatred. Probably his own self hatred, but you can't care about others if you don't care about yourself. I had to remove myself from his self-manufactured harm and harm's way. The law wouldn't have cared that I don't partake had my property come under their scrutiny. It's all about money to them and how much they can pull into their coffers from seizures.
.. as was his right .. More
.. as was his right ..
More to the point, HIS RESPONSIBILITY!!! But of course, everyone in the world is responsible for Bozo and BH. They're special and exempt from owing or giving anything in return. Whip out the world's tiniest violin for a round of the world's saddest blues ballad. (yawn)
I told Bozo to call caseworker "Iris" so we could talk about it. Said he didn't have the number with him but would look it up and tell her when he got back to his folder. Not holding my breath.
I wouldn't even bother
I wouldn't even bother anymore. Just cut the communication now. All you are going to get is sob stories, poor us nonsense.
Any little nibble you give, makes him think he will be able to come back eventually.
I agree you had NO legal
I agree you had NO legal agreement. I also believe that bozo made up that story about the caseworker being mad he wanted to make you think you would be trouble. I have never heard of a caseworker being mad at anyone that kicked people out of their home as it is the PARENTS responsibility to provide for their kids and not someone that LET them stay at their home. That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard!
You go non with your life and move on with out a loser like bozo! SO glad to hear that you are going great.
Exactly! Bozo is obviously
Exactly! Bozo is obviously trying SCARE TACTICS to get his free loading life style back.
NO WAY!
Don't let this crap bully you
Don't let this crap bully you into taking an obvious maladjusted guilty daddy and his rotten to the core spawn back into your home!
Do not offer to let Bozo come back if he'll agree to AA meetings, b/c you know that he'll agree and then go RIGHT BACK to acting the way he did earlier.
Sheer manipulation!
You haven't heard anything about it nor received any notice which Social Services and the Law community is required to do so they can all go pound salt!
Thanks vickmeister. I was so
Thanks vickmeister. I was so caught up in the lie/manipulation of the social worker supposedly wanting to have me arrested that it hadn't occurred to me that the 'not ok to be living with grandparents' thing was probably a lie/manipulation too.
Doubtful I'll be making any additional offer for their return, but your suggestion ups the ante enough to keep them away forever if I want to take another calculated risk. }:)
Ok, dpwannabe, heard ya! Was
Ok, dpwannabe, heard ya!
Was just sitting here reeling at the thought that I have spent 2.5 years entertaining one big lie/manipulation after another from Bozo (and BH), all the while searching, hoping and pretending there might be a tiny shred of genuine sincerity and love forthcoming. How foolish. How stupid. What is wrong with me, or where am I going wrong? I don't want to repeat anymore painful lessons (hah, Freudian slip - typed "lesions") like this again.
You were right the first time
You were right the first time with lesions...LOL they will stick to you if you let them! Consider this a surgical removal and allow yourself some recovery time in which you do nothing unless it's for YOU! Good luck, I know these types of people can be very persuasive but I know you have the strength to get over the whole operation.