DH came up with something else to present to SD15 as an option about going to live with BM. He thinks she should stay with us for her 10th grade year of HS and then the day after school is out we can put her on a plane to BM and she can stay there the entire summer and if she decides she wants to stay on and go to school there, she can. I think that sounds like a reasonable idea provided SD15 can knock it off with her behavior issues and quit treating the rest of us like dog poo. DH and I both feel that BM is not the best person for SD15 to be around, but if she supposedly feels the need to work on her relationship with her mother. I hope that when she finally gets the chance to work on, SD and BM will be able to have a healthier, more supportive relationship, but I just don't know if BM is mature enough to know how to do that. I guess we'll find out eventually.