I'll always be in BM's shadow
Lately it just seems that everyone in DH's life will always have a preferance to BM over me. it's been a year since her "glow-up" and she's drop dead gorgeous. I caught DH checking her out at Wal-Mart and he even called me her name during sex awhile back Against my better judgement, I went through his phone and they weren't communcating about anything except the kids. That lead to a pretty bad fight. Things did settle down for a bit....Until Bm started sending treats with the skids. She's been "discovering" herself again and now she's the topic of choice for everyone. She'll send cookies, pastries, or whatever goodies she makes with the skids(OSS16, YSS14, SD13) in bulk. Normally this wouldn't bother me how ever lately all the skids will talk about is BM and how great she is. I don't usually care as she's very low conflict but every sentence is about her. DH's entire family have her on a pedestal. She and DH were high school and college sweethearts. She was only 19 when she lost both her parents. Since then, DH's famiy essentially took her in. I always did believe that my MIL favored BM over me. She's not rude or condescending in anyway. There's a difference between our she is with me vs how she was/is with her.
DH's friend circle till this day just adores her. He's had the same circle of friends since his their college days. The wives all had issues with her initally because all their husbands had crushes on her. Basically she was great. Even post divorce, BM is still close with many of DH's friends. Her and 3 of the wives work out together.
It's only been 6 weeks since I've at our second child and I'm a mess. I don't feel like myself anymore. Anytime I hear Bm's name, It have to leave the room because I feel I'll lash out. Just a few days back, I had to listen to Skids talk about how BM planned a huge get together inviting all of their friends and famillies. She even made food seperate for my in-laws on dropped them off at their house. They loved that btw!
I can't get a break!! BM THIS. BM THAT. I don't want to hear about her anymore. If DH wants to listen (and he does) go for it. I don't need to nor want to hear about his ex wife.....