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My 5 year old ss said he's going to kick my ass......go figure!!!

PeytonsMom09's picture

Well, I have the most awesome fiance who has a 5 year old son. We just had a beautiful babygirl 6 months ago!! His BM is the biggest drunk douche that I could ever come across....I am engaged to the most wonderful, honest, loyal and hardworking man that I have ever known and his sons mother is a *i*ch!!! After cheating on him several times and leaving him for another man.....she is mad that he has moved on and is now happy!!! So I guess that she thinks having her son be utterly disrespectful to me that will make me leave his father!!! My stepson told my nephew that he was going to "kick my ass" and when asked where did he get that from, he said "my mommy"....I have done nothing but treat my ss with love and respect and she is angry because she knows that she can never have his father back!!! We have him every other weekend (he's fighting for more time) and each weekend that he comes he is worse than the one before....they are all drunks and disrespectful losers in that house from grandma down and it is getting harder and harder to deal with him!! When we first started dating he had him every weekend until she found out that we were engaged and then when I got pregnant she tried to take him away!! What is wrong with chicks? There are so many deadbeat dads out there, you would think that she would be happy that my guy isn't one!!! Unfortunately, her behavior with their son causes a strain (beings that she has a greater influence on their son than he does)! I don't like disrespectful ornery kids and Iam afraid that he will grow up to become an alcoholic like EVERYBODY in that house!!! Chick has alot of moouth and no balls...tryna keep my cool!!

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TheWife's picture

k,

I know this is not funny, and that kid needs a mouthful of soap... But I couldn't help laughing out loud! I can just imagine a little five year old with his fist balled up, shaking it saying "I'ma kick your ass!" in a five year old voice.

That said, wow! His mom lets him talk like that? Even the shitty BM in my life has better manners than to speak like that around her kids.

~*~When you kiss ass, your breath smells like sh*t~*~

PeytonsMom09's picture

That's just it....she was bumpin' her gums telling someone (that repeated the story to my nephew) that she was going to kick my ass, so he felt as though he could repeat it!!! The ? is, on what parallel planet? She has no respect so unfortunately he might just end up like her!!! We only have him for 4 days out of the month!

You wish........

TheWife's picture

What did his dad say?

And remember, this is not the little boy's fault, he can mimic what he sees. You definitely need to work with his dad on getting him under control.

~*~When you kiss ass, your breath smells like sh*t~*~

DISbelief's picture

I will echoe what TheWife said because it is SOOO important for us to understand that these kids are only acting how they have been taught to act. And as hard as it is NOT to take it out on him, you can't. Especially since he is with BM so much more than he is with you and DH. My only suggestion would be DOCUMENT EVERYTHING, and persue going to court for more time with him. He needs a stable home with parents that respect his right to LOVE ALL of his family. He needs a talking to from his DAD, and DAD needs to address with with BM. No matter what, you have to maintain the respect in YOUR home.

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~ Wink

justbdais's picture

I have to say that when my nephew was 3 he blurted out "I'm kick your ass dad" in the car for no reason. Of course he overheard a movie where some kids say the exact thing. You have to remember that kids say the damndest things and most of it is because they overhear it. My nephew also use to tell us that he was gonna kick us off the earth when he was mad at us. It is normal for kids to repeat what they hear.

StepChicka's picture

LOL...the heading of your blog was so darn funny. Great visual... Biggrin

I don't know if you're aware but many kids, especially young ones, in split families have a hard time deciphering their loyalties. They feel like they can't love mom if they love their step-mom or vice versa. Throw in a little PAS and it gets to be a big problem; then the kid feels GUILTY for loving step-parents for fear of hurting their bio parents. Very sad but real issue.

hismineandours's picture

I would ignore it. Alot will disagree-but I would say that even at his age he knows its inappropriate and is seeing what kind of reaction he can get. Do not react and then on the flip side when he does speak nicely, be sure and praise the heck out of him and tell him how great it is that he can talk so nicely to people.

hismineandours's picture

I would ignore it. Alot will disagree-but I would say that even at his age he knows its inappropriate and is seeing what kind of reaction he can get. Do not react and then on the flip side when he does speak nicely, be sure and praise the heck out of him and tell him how great it is that he can talk so nicely to people.

DISbelief's picture

I would agree with this to an extent... I believe the child should be told that the language is inappropriate, and that you can't talk to people like that. They need to learn respect no matter what. I wouldn't make a big deal about the fact that he said it to YOU. And at some point if it continues, then BM should be confronted that teaching him that behavoir is not only WRONG, it is harmful to this childs developement as a normal fundtioning adolecent. PAS is serious.

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~ Wink