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SD has hit a new very low, low

notme's picture

 

I am totally disengaged, and have been for about 5 years, well the hubs came back from picking up his fathers day present extremely distressed. Saying that he needs to speak to me about something.

His oldest GD [18] has had a back problem from birth, but he has not seen her for about 6 months due to her locking herself away in her bedroom 24/7. Well he saw her yesterday, and she is bent double with the twisting of her spine, the hubs was shocked and started talking about it with his daughter who lovingly informed him that she could have had an operation when she was ten to fix it but that would have meant that she would have lost benefits so decided against it.

I am in shock that any mother could do that to her child, she will be in a wheelchair by the time she is 25.

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Winterglow's picture

That woman is sick. Your husband isn't the only one shocked by what she said. I am horrified and disgusted.

justmakingthebest's picture

CPS? I mean seriously. This is abuse. 

I wonder if there is anything that can be done to help her now?

notme's picture

yes, I have already called them as she has an additional 4 younger children, this has shocked me to the core. 

I don't think I will ever get passed it. 

positivelyfourthstreet's picture

I have no words.

That is horrifying.

Poor kid.

grannyd's picture

My younger daughter was diagnosed with scoliosis (curvature of the spine) at 12 years old. Because the problem was addressed in its early stages, my DD's spine was substantially corrected with the use of a 'Boston Bucket' that she wore until she had finished growing. 

Facing her teen years with a brace on her back was particularly traumatic for DD as she was a competitive gymnast, forced to give up the sport. Despite the brace and years of therapy, my DD’s spine will never be quite right yet she was able to pursue a relatively normal life. 

To ignore a condition so damaging, when left untreated, is an egregious parental failure. Notme, I felt sickened, reading your post; my heart goes out to your DH and that poor, neglected young woman!

bananaseedo's picture

My husband has scoliosis, his parents never treated it though he was fitted for a brace, probably around age 10-11?  His dad was a veteran so they had the insurance, because of it he's faced life-long problems with his back, and now it's causing neuropathy.  He wasn't on services or anything so there was no money they were making off him unlike this despicable SD...but I still find that it was horrible neglect that they didn't take care of.  I resent them for it honestly.

hereiam's picture

I would say that I am in shock and awe that a mother would sacrifice her child like that for benefits, except, I can see BM doing this, as she's done things along these lines (however, not quite as debilitating). Being dumb enough to admit it, is something else.

I hope something can still be done for her.

CLove's picture

Wow. So very sad for this child. What a cruel mother. She should be reported.

I hope that this is correctable.

grannyd's picture

Spinal fusion is an alternative. However, for a child like my DD who, despite her diminutive height, excelled at basketball as well as gymnastics, track, skiing, rollerblading and ballet, surgery was too risky. 

At age 57, my DD coaches gymnastics in her small town, wins most of the competitions available to her students and is still able to perform a perfect ‘stag handstand’ on the balance beam! She may be ‘crooked’, but she’s ‘mighty’!