That's just how kids are.
SD is 11, and most of the time I can not stand her. As soon as she wakes up in the mornings I get in a bad mood! She talks like she knows everything, I swear one day I heard her giving marriage advice I mean you have to be kidding! When I try to talk to anyone about the way I feel about her I get the same response across the board. "She's just being a kid" or "That's how kids are ". I get along with kids, most all kids. But this one I despise. She is always right up mine and her mother's ass! She doesn't entertain herself, to be honest I dont think she likes herself enough to be alone with her. Haha. I feel like people on here understand what I am dealing with, this is not just a kid, this is the spawn of satan! I have never in my life met another person that talks about people behind there back as much as she does much less a kid that does it. Anyway thank you all for letting me vent,
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Sure, a lot of what you are
Sure, a lot of what you are saying can be a kid thing... not all kids.. but not totally uncommon. That doesn't mean that even bio parents don't get occasionally aggravated by a know it all squirt. It is exponentially more difficult when you are a step parent because you may be limited in how you can correct or counsel the child.. and how it might be taken by the kid... and.. the kids also can embody some other unpleasant associations.. that may not be entirely the kid's fault.. but they are the living breathing reason for them.. (HCBM.. CS.. etc)
I mean sure, most children
I mean sure, most children can be annoying sometimes but when a child is consistently and constantly annoying and unpleasant then no, its not only a child being a child is a child being obnoxious!
Imo it is up to the parents to raise their children to be decent, kind human beings and by saying "he/she will grow out of it" or "he/she is only 4, only 5, only 6..." they are just making excuses or taking the easy way out for bad behaviours instead of correcting them.
Expectations and corrections
Expectations and corrections/consequences should absolutely be age appropriate. You can't expect the same standards of behavior from a 3 year old.. vs a 6 year old vs an 11 year old vs an 18 year old. Children aren't born with an inate sense of appropriate behavior and boundaries.. that is something they learn as they grow.. from parents.. from their peers.. from teachers etc...
Where things breakdown is when the parent isn't correcting poor behavior.. it's ok that the child doesn't automatically know what is right.. but the parent can certainly give guidance.. and set expectations and gently push the child in a better direction.
It's ok for kids to have opinions though.. and independent thought should be encouraged.. they just need to learn how to respectfully get their point or idea across.