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I get so tired of SD suffering for her BM's stupidity

Newstep's picture

Sad Sad Sad Just makes me so sad for her. SO went to court to try to change BM's custody because she is living with a druggie. He filed an emergency order asking for full custody until mediation. The judge denied it and SD had to go back to her BM's as per the court order. She sent them to mediation but that is 3 weeks away. Meanwhile SD has been wanting to try out for cheer all of which takes place during her BM's time. She needs a physical which is 35.00 or more than likely free under our insurance. If she makes the squad 150.00 is due right then and the remaining balance is set up over the next 4 months to be paid. SO and BM are supposed to split the extra curricular costs. Well BM just told her flat out no that she didn't have the money and she couldn't do it. I am so pissed this waste of space gets 1700.00/mo in CS and doesn't have money for her physical or cheer??? She and her BF plus her BF's two kids live off the CS that SO pays her for SD. So once their needs (cigarettes,beer) are met then poor SD is left out in the cold. Two able bodied people and neither of them work. I can't fathom how she can live off the CS that's bad enough but her BF and his two kids :jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop: Just had to vent!!!

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HappyCow's picture

This sounds a lot like my SD's BM. SD loves to cheer and has made her high school team the past two seasons. BM loves to throw up as many roadblocks as she possibly can to throw a wrench in this kids dreams. We live an hour away from SD/BM and the night before try outs DH had to drive to pick her up and take her for a physical (yes they are normally covered) so she could try out the next day. BM was too lazy to do it. The Dr's office was less than 5 miles from her house. BM doesn't work and just sits and watches Netflix all day long. Also, when SD was having confidence issues with her back handspring BM refused to take her to tumbling classes so she could make the team. We ended up paying for private lessons EOW until she got it. Her cheer coach set up something with a local gym that provided training for $20 a month! BM couldn't be bothered to take her. I will never understand these women. She gets plenty in CS to cover the costs plus gas money to take her. My DD5 loves gymnastics and even though she is never going to go to the Olympics (trust me-it's hilarous to watch her "tumble") I will keep taking her once a week because she loves it!

Newstep's picture

It is so sad. The thing with our BM is that she will be up SD's butt with anything to do with cheer. She will try to be involved and hang out with the kids until it costs money then she is a ghost. Nowhere to be found. I ended up caving and scheduling SD's physical but her BM is going to have to take her. The worse part is that the darn physical is free it wouldn't have cost BM a stinking cent she was just to lazy to do it. But oh she is MOTY!!!