To start off with the basics I am a Bio mom of DD2 and Step mom of SS13 and SD8
I have been Married to DH for 4 months and been together for 6 yrs

Well what can I say my life is nothing as I had expected it to be and it all changed five years ago. Five years ago I made the decision to move with my DH (who was my BF then) to a different state. This is the state that changed my life as I now know it. Here I became a step mom to SS13 and SD8 (who were 8 and 3) and began to deal with the stupidities of BM.

At first it didnt seem as bad as maybe because I was naive or because I was disengaged, but surely the problems did come one after the other never stopping and probably never will. So let me briefly tell you what this waste of space has put DH and I through...

1.Made me her weekend babysitter while DH worked nights (used DH guilt for being in a different state to get away with it) I put a stop to that pretty quick

2.Called DH In the middle of the night one day because she couldnt handle her at the time bootycall, so we went so we can get the kids out of the bad environment and ended up driving her to a friends house to come and find out the next day she was back with psyco bootycall (every three months it was a new booty call)

3.SS13 was found with and mp3 played at daycare when he was 9 showing explicit pictures of his mom and her fiancé at the time daycare said not appropriate didnt specify to me exactly what it was so i told Dh and he told BM SS13 was not allowed to take mp3 to school weeks passed and One night while SS13 was in room I opened the door and he had the mp3 he was looking at something but once he saw me he quickly tried to power off I look to see what its was and it was these pictures let me tell you no one should see those kind of pictures of their mother she blamed it on comp syncing all with no permission BS.

4. BM lied to CS ad said DH hadnt paid which he did but made the mistake to do it by cash check before I came along then made him do it with a Money order so long story short we had out tax return taken away for that yr and once she put in for a revision other arrears were dismissed since he had proof she decided to drop them instead of letting judge hear what she had been up too

5.Bm took Skids out of state with out DH permision

6.BM called cying at midnight becasue SS13(11 or 12 at the time) socked her in the face and wanted DH to discipline him for it.

7.BM and her now xhusband are alcoholics and drug abusers put kids though who knows exactly what she ended up in rehab for a month.

and of course throughout the years the normal drama no you cant have them more, no you cant do that with them, the im not taking them to your house because im mad at you and the nonstop calling and texting, the im a better parent than you are ect.

DH from the get go told me she is nothing nice I though, ok I know BMs are drama ok but, never did I think it was to this extent, never did I think it would causee the problem it has caused in Dh and My relationship whether it is caused by Bm or skids there are days that I wish I would have said no I wont go with you to the other state, but if that had been the case I wouldn’t have the love of my life my DD2 and would not have my other half, life isnt perfect I guess.

So now the current issues with this waste of space is she is unwilling to give her kids the attention the deserve such as school and sports and normal parent kids bonding time(well this has always been the problem but its just gotten worse) she instead decided to spend her evenings at AA meetings and has given us more weekend time 3 weekend out of 4 they are with us which is better for them in a way she drop her kids house at her p[parents at 6am so they can get them ready for school so she can have time and get ready for work which is at her parents company. SS13 failed 7th grade she decided to move him along as the school let her make the decision which she let the boy make the decision, he is currently failing the 8th grade just a month and a half into school with 3-F's 1-D and 3-C's but according to her he is doing better than last yr has stated to be tardy to classes and has skiped one thus far her threat to him is if he doesnt do well he will be sent to live with us. they dont like our house as much since we do have rules and we expect them to be followed. As for SD8 she is doing o in school is given homework package on friday which is due til next fri so has week to finish she has already not completed one weeks and BM decided SD8 should do hw at our house on the weekends we have no problem with that but dont expect it all done it is ment to be done during the week not in one day BM got mad last weekend since we didnt have SD8 finish it all I'm sorry but we will not do all of your work for you, if you have physical custody of them and they reside with you that is part of the responsibility that comes with it if you cannot handle it then sent them to live with us oh wait you will never do that since all you care about is the money.

So thats my Story life with a BM and I'm sure there stuff that got left out, stay tuned the drama doesnt end here to be continued...

Just thought Id use this site to vent, journal, and get advice