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Double Standerds....GRRRR

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Submitted by My3His1 on Thu, 03/10/2011 - 6:58pm

}:) I am so sick of my DH double standerds when it comes to parenting....My sd age 13 has given us grief since day one she lies, steals, gets angry & breaks/ tears up stuff....She's 13 year old hell on 2 feet yet lately dh has pretty much given up on punishing/parenting her....He feels like if she want listen, does not want to obey & is too much to handle than fine forget it....What pisses me off is that if my bd age 6 whines, fusses or has fit my Dh wants to punish her ASAP & yells at me if I don't handle it how he thinks it should be . Whats good for my 3 ages 6, 8, 12 is not good for his...Who else has to deal with this ?

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Submitted by 3bk1sd on Thu, 03/10/2011 - 8:23pm

I thought I had writen this for a minute. I had to look at your user name to make sure I hadn't, lol.
It is the exact same thing here. My bis are 11,7 & 2 (the 2 yr old is DH's). My SD is 12. She hasn't come for 10 weeks now because I started to point out her poor behaviour. For 5 1/2 years now I have sat by and watched her break things, steal and lie and I was tired of it. It was literaly making me sick. I had migraines 2-3 times per week and decided enough was enough.

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Submitted by hismineandours on Thu, 03/10/2011 - 10:23pm

Yep-my dh had the same issues with ss12-compared to mine-dd13, ds11 and ours dd9. He told me once that he just didnt know what to do with ss that he had just sort of given up-because nothing that he had tried was effective and he knew that if the other kids were disciplined they would actually listen and learn. Obviously not great reasoning-but it did help me to understand where he was coming from rather than he just thought ss was so awesome that he deserved special treatment. Instead it was that ss was such a loser that he didnt have any hope for him.