So Frustrated, Really Need Advice
Hello everyone, so just to give you a little background on stuff first... my bf and I have been together for 2yrs... we just had a son who is now 7 months. I have two daughters, 7 and 5. He has a 3yr old daughter. His daughters mother is just horrid.... i can't stand her. The first year my bf and i started dating, his ex and I got into a fist fight outside my house on thanksgiving because she was cursing at me in front of my daughters after i was trying to be nice and introduce my daughters to her when she was dropping off their daughter. My daughters didn't see the fight because i told them to go in the house before i punched the bi**h in her mouth! Anyway, so since then i want nothing to do with her rude ghetto self. Now because of that, I don't really have a relationship with his daughter.... Im very stand offish to her and she's just "there" to me... I've expressed to my bf that he cant keep forcing her on me because then I'll just be more distant. He always has me watching her because her mother is always passing her off. She's gone so far as to block him after he's picked their daughter up so that way he will keep her until she's "ready" to get her again. After a while i told him i wasn't watching her anymore and she needed to go to a babysitter... that lasted like a week! My bf wants me to stay home with our son until he's a bit older so i agreed. My bf works 2 jobs... Monday through Thursday during the day from 9am to 7pm and Saturday 6:30am to 4pm, then Friday, Saturday and Sunday night from 8:30pm to 3/4am.... his only "off" days are Friday and Sunday during the day. He gets his daughter every single week from Friday 12pm until Tuesday after he gets off work and sometimes until Wednesday morning or he'd get her on Saturday after he gets off work and bring her back Wednesday or Thursday, then get her back again on Saturdays! I am with his daughter the entire time!! And on his off days, he's asleep... so I'm STILL watching her. My daughters stay with their dad for school purposes, so i get them about 2 weekends out the month so it's not AS hectic but I'm losing my F*kin mind! I've tried telling him to get her every other weekend because HE is not the one who has her... I AM, but he refuses! I feel like he just ignores me. He claims he doesn't want to "argue" with his ex and I'm like "F**k your Ex", that's YOUR daughters mother! SHE should have her all the time! He says when she's supposed to be with her mother she's actually always with her grandmother. I told him that's not my problem! He NEVER watches my daughters or our son because he's always working. I've told him i need a break, and it just seems to go through one ear and out the other. I really don't know what to do. I have so much resentment towards him for always putting her on me and I'm even more distant and annoyed with his daughter because I'm always with her having to do everything for her. I took a two week vacation to visit my mom just to get away and teach him a lesson, but that hasn't even worked! I don't know what to do. I've debated about leaving the relationship but i don't want to do that to my son... it wouldn't be fair to him to take him from having both his parents around just because i don't want to be stuck watching his daughter all the time! Please give me some of your input.... and be easy on the harsh comments... just take a look from my point of view first. Thanks Kings and Queens!