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mommy_of_4's picture

I envy all you SM's who only have to deal with ur skids eow. SD13 has been at her moms since thursday and will be coming back tomorrow. It seems so unfair. On days when I do have the pleasure of not having to deal with her, the time just flies. And yet ALL the other days just seem to drag. Her nasally voice echos in my head. Once SD gets back from BM's place tomorrow she doesn't go back again for 3 weeks...that means NO break from this spawn for 3 WHOLE WEEKS!! Its too bad I couldn't just heavily sedate myself the days she is with us...but unfortunately thats full time and I have my own kids to deal with so thats not an option. Nice thought though.
So all you SM's who will be bidding fairwell to your skids for another 2 weeks, I am over here dying with envy! OoOh how I wish...but it is what it is...and its F***ING HELL!!

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June's picture

Oh man, that does sound tough. I don't get my Skids eow I get them for a portion of every single weekend. I too have thought about putting my self in a coma when they come over but I don't think that will work. Let me know if u think of something. LOL

mommy_of_4's picture

I take xanax and its for anxiety. Well my anxiety goes through the roof when she is here. So I have thought about maybe taking one each day before she is set to come home from school. I am at the point where i would try almost anything.

Freedom2005's picture

You get a weekend? I wish... BM gets supervised visitation with NO over nights. I get a break from my own 2 DDs more than my Skids, and I am CP! They are always here! If they are not, then I am expected to pick them up from where ever they were the night before. Or be available to be home for them to be dropped off.

I know they should not be around BM, but I do miss when SO was NOT CP for them. They are better off, but our relationship is not.

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ubrngoutdbitchnme's picture

Wow I envy you! At least you get a break. The only break I get from SD15 and SS13 is when they have sleep overs, which they don't get that often, or it's summer break and they get sent to my FSIL house for 2-3 weeks or it's Christmas break and skids stay a week with FSIL. Ah, I envy you.....

CaptainD's picture

We have eow, and the two weeks we don't have her fly by..... the weekend we do drags...... doesn't matter how long you have them, time still slows down. Ugh.

sasha101's picture

We have custody, and bm has them eowe and half of the school holidays. I live for the times they're away and me and dh can have some couple time. Time always goes too fast when they're away and before you know it, they're back whining, clinging, attention seeking, making far too much noise and mess and generally being very irritating.

I've often thought about what life would be like if they went to live with bm, and a few years ago it would have been my dream come true. However thinking about it, we're probably better off with them here as bm is a control freak but has no ammunition to use against us while we have custody. If they went to live with her, she'd be constantly demanding money, using them as weapons against dh and would be as awkward as possible over contact just to make life difficult for us. DH isn't working just now, but would probably get a job so she'd screw him for every penny of his earnings and he'd use all his holidays up for skid contact, leaving him with no time off for kid-free time with me. He'd be at her mercy and would go back to obeying her every command "for the kids sake" like he did when we first met. I can't say I love being a sm, but I'd rather put up with his annoying kids than have our lives ruled by manipulative, controlling bm.

Unfortunately the skids won't disappear, as much as I wish they would, so I have to make the best of things until they get older and independent enough to let us have a life of our own.