Today my fhd stayed home because he was sick and he saw what I had to deal on a day to day basis! He was pissed he did not get to sleep because when he is sick its like the world is ending I'm sure every one can relate! He got only 5 hrs of sleep instead of his normal eight!! He watched and herd with his own eyes and ears his son not listen to me or respond to me at all. I put my SS on punishment because he does not listen and is rude all the time to me on a daily basis. My fhd didn't understand my frustration until today when he saw me politely ask my SS to Sit on his bed while I sweep his room and to please not yell when it is nap time. My fhd was ashamed and overwhelmed as my SS pretty much told me fuck you with his behavior and his attitude. He also saw that everyday task like brushing teeth putting pants on and shoes on was a hastle and each task was a 10-30 minute fight by the time we got out the door it was 45 minutes passed the time he want ed to leave! He saw me cook dinner and watched my SS not eat it it was eggs bacon and toast I could not mess that up if I tried. When my SS Bio dad asked what was wrong his son said I can't eat I will throw up again my fhd asked why cant you eat and my SS replied i want to vomit and I wonteat because I'm mad that my Bio mom and sisters are not here. This is his response when I he doesn't want to do anything he won't want ti wake up est listen or anything and his response is I miss mg Bio mom. His Bio mom again has not seen him or talked to him since he was 3 (he will be 5moving in may). My fhd finally agreed that tings are tough and that I don't just sit on my ass and for nothing he realized that even getting him ti eat is a hour process and to pee it sleep is even longer. My fhd now sees that my attempt is not tl harsh and hopefully he will stop degrading me in front of his Bio son