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BM- an amazing woman.

MJL2010's picture

I mean, she truly is amazing. For her next trick, she will continue to find ways to never follow through with any ideas she dreams up to discipline the twins, and to then find ways to blame their behavior on DH.

Last weekend, DH was in her town running errands so he stopped by her house to drop something off (he had responded to a text from her that morning, asking him for said item, and she did not respond). In her yard was a guy, who came up and introduced himself to DH as her boyfriend. DH said he seemed really nice. Twin B was outside with this guy's kids (yes, now BM has her very own BM to deal with and she sounds nuts as well) and Twin A never even came outside to see his dad. BM came out to lament and ask DH for support; I guess Twin A said to her, in front of a friend they had over, "You have no idea how much I hate you" and other really awful things, so he was in disgrace...twin B has said similar things to her. Anyway. The guy asked DH how we get the twins to help out at our house, DH responded that we don't give them a choice. She said that she had imposed a "no sleepovers for the rest of the school year" rule and that she hoped they could meet with the twins to discuss this most recent instance (HABIT) of nasty behavior.

DH listened to her concerns, put energy and compassion into a text thread with her, and the plan was that they would sit down as a family to discuss twin behavior. She couldn't do it Friday as she was taking a class and DH couldn't meet Sunday.

In the meantime, DH found out from twins that they had been told by her to NOT mention her boyfriend to DH. She has been dating him for months now. They are afraid of her and it is really messed up that they would obey her order to not mention him. Personally I can't believe that any guy wants anything to do with her- since the guy with the defecation fetish ended things with her, I don't think she has had another significant other. But that's neither here nor there. Lid for every pot and all that.

So this week she's back into the whole calling names, playing games with custody times (vacation week), etc...and guess what? They had a sleepover last night and are having one tonight. She took them out to dinner the night that Twin A told her that awful thing. This woman seems to have no idea that her inconsistency is creating the behavior. Aside from occasional backchat from these boys, which I have worked to be able to handle with some maturity, :P, we just don't have the same problems here. Still just so frustrating for DH- and I hate seeing him have to deal with her absolute lunacy. She has the Bitmoji app and loves sending him the "I know you are but what am I?" one, when she is the one who does all name-calling.

Karma-wise, her foreclosed-upon house has been a problem yet again, in the form of a local criminal posing as a realtor and renting it out to people. He has been arrested and her house wasn't the only one he did it to. Yikes.

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