Losing My Mind!!!
I have been with my husband for 3 years, he has a son who is now 9years old and will be 10 this June! I'm losing my mind, as a step mother, I get looked at as the bad guy for EVERYTHING!!! He moved into my (our home now) since we've been married. He has his son Monday's, Wednesday's, and every other weekend. I love his son like my own but lord almighty this child is beyond spoiled and entitled and I blame both the mother and his father! He has ZERO responsibilities, poor hygiene, bad grades and just plain old DOESNT care about respecting this house at all! Anytime he lost anything it was replaced, it could be anything up to even his own winter coat and he never got in trouble. Everything is always replaced. I never seen this child on any type of punishment and if there was one it never lasted no more than a few hours. It took so long for my SS to learn to wash his hands before/after meals (till now he's told to wash his hands), he barely brushes his teeth when he's with us and barely showers. I tried and tried so hard to speak to my husband about all of this, just to get told "you don't like my son", I'm always the bad guy and all I want is the best for my SS!!! I want him to grow up to be a responsible, well kept young man. Now that we are on this "stay at home order" his son does nothing but play video games all day and if he's not on his game his face is glued to a cellphone screen! My husband doesn't think anything of it. He eat nothing but junk food all day and I try to inform my husband he needs to eat a "real" meal. He's suppose to have had to learning packets from school one packet was giving in early March before the closed schools down and another on March 30, both to which are 38 pages. He's done none of it. Now there is Remote Learning and he didn't even to that.
I'm losing my mind because I just care about this child to have some damn structure and responsibilities. Yet, I'm seriously wondering about how his parents (my husband and his BM) are raising this child. I seriously feel like this child will never have a clue how to be on his own or even handle normal life with the way this is going. i tried so hard to talk about this and I'm always getting snapped on like I'm the step monster and that he's just a "baby!" I'm like what the hell HE'S 9 going on 10, he's not 2!
please help I'm lost and possibly ready to leave my husband because I can't take feeling like a maid, alone without a say so in my own home.