help me- I might blow

Yeah so I thought I just had nothing left foe BM- didn't care enough to hate her- I was soo wrong!@!

Today I took SD to psych. app. and discussed some of my concerns also- well it's funny cause all of my concerns were validated

so now it seems that there's no good way to deal with anything BM does cause it would cause my relationship w/SD harm to intervene in the overnight visits, and BM really is trying to view this as a competition between me and her - so BM is trying(most likely as dr said) to keep SD from succeeding under "us", and is totally undermining the years of therapy that aren't nearly as effective cause SD keeps being bombarded by BMs "friendship"- which is effectively nothing more than BM knows SD will feel bad that BM is such a freakin loser that she has no friends, can only get attention by ploys of fake suicide, telling anyone she will do it and has done soooo many times then (with public aid card in hand-) runs to the ER all the time for everything and tries to make everything sound so fatal-BM has claimed cancer three times and it has always gone away(never any side effects from chemo, or treatment that we heard of and trust me she complains for sympathy if her tampon is tilted)it has just gone away- yep it pissed me off cause thats such a crappy thing to lie about especially since the last time BM did this, DHs wonderful grandmother(who raised him) was really fighting it for the third time- for real- and DH was taking it hard cause it wasn't looking so good and it took alot more fight out of her- so for BM to knowing this still make this claim just for sympathy was sick and vicious as far as I am concerned not to mention what it does to her kids(SD no longer believes much of what BM says but theres always a part of her who will respond in fear to this stuff - who wouldn't if it were their mom?) so it still effects her.
I truely do hate her with every atom of my being- I can't think of many people who disgust me more- and certainly none I have ever met.
BM doesn't care how destructive she is to SD- toxic trash- or how much SD will go through for the rest of her life to battle demons created in SDs heart by BMs seed!!!!!
I am so mad I am sitting here while DH takes the older kids to the movies just crying because I am so afraid of the pain that SD is going to likely have to face because of this women who was supposed to "love and protect" her and instead has let her own bitter,jelous,manipulative,co dependant,bi polar,self loathing, and narcissistic crap become such a big part of SDs life.

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i know how u feel! i also

i know how u feel! i also hate BM so much sometimes that it's impossible for me to think right. she lies like there is no tomorrow and messes around with men a lot i guess she thinks she;s still a teenager. all this that she does out of jealousy only affects SD therefore my home cause SD is just beginning to bring problems in.

best advice i can give u is to try and forget about BM cause they only cause stomach aches. ignore her every time possible cause hating is not healthy and just remember that we have what they want because they were not good enough.

Thank you, I feel much

Thank you, I feel much better now.
I have decided to talk to DH tomorrow and let him know that he has to contact BM and let her know if she continues to act in such a neglectful manner toward SD we will be taking her back to court to either terminate her summer visits, or have them limitted to daytime only since it seems BM is more abusive at night when she is at her very special personal pitty time and drinking often as I am told, popping pills on top of it all BM is also diagnosed bipolar(not an excuse as far as I am concerned since my mother was at the major end of bipolar but was a wonderful mom since thats what she fought daily to be) and likely other problems that she hasn't found a way to tell us and get sympathy from.
I do hate this female, but I love my daughter- I still say I would spend an eternity with the looney to have SD- it's worth it, I just hope SD realizes how precious she is and turns away from what BM is obviously wether consciously or not - trying to create.
Thank you so much for posting!

There is no reason where logic does not exist

You can't reason with crazy.

This BM sounds like she is seriously mentally ill. I hope it goes better for you than it ever did for me. BM is bipolar and so is SD16, both their lives suck and will never get any better because they are eternal victims.

BM tries to convince SD and

BM tries to convince SD and her therapists that SD has all sorts of other mental issues- in my opinion BM is just scared someone is gonna tell SD alot of the problems she has her mother is at the root, and if SD figures it out she may not be so manipulated by BM.
I am terrified, I pray for this child all the time, I can't imagine feeling any worse for a child - SD is truly mine as far as I am concerned.
I feel like I am walking a highwire and BM has it electrified and stands there with a switch, I wish BM had just run off like she threatened, atleast that could be dealt with in therapy but as long as BM is around I am starting to feel/see that therapy will be a moot point since BM does not appear to want SD healthy.

Thank you for helping, let's just hope all is not in vain here.