BF's x is a master manipulator. She knows a persons weakness's and plays on it. She can be very sweet and charming when it suits her purposes as well...she's very self serving and very, very good at it.

(In general it seems that men seem are more susceptable to these ploys..they don't have many (any) female freinds...SD's & Mom )

SD plays my BF very very well. SD also plays her fiance..the same way her mother played her father. She played the guy she dated before him same way...treated him like her was put on the earth to serve her...mistreated really. She says jump...they must say how high. It's how she was raised..it's what she saw in the home..it's the only way she knows how to be!!! Mom had Dad right where she wanted him.

In high school..Instead of having "affairs" like her mother did. SD would spend time with another guy.."hanging out"..but not calling it a date.. Then when she decided to get sexual..she would dump her BF..spend a couple weeks with the "new guy" Then get back together with her old stand by. That way she couldn't be accused of "cheating" and "technically" wouldn't disappoint her Dad. He bought into it!! Cause he just doesn't want to see the woman he dispises in the child he loves.

In BFs house he was the main income earner..and cook..and childcare provider..housekeeper..etc.. and she was a self abosrbed bitch...

Different times SD's fiance has made comments "jokingly" as not to set SD off..about "how would you know you don't go near the stove" Or what a slob she is... (she never lifted a finger here) Last night she was talking about his sock drawer...he says "You never do laundry so I know you weren't putting my socks away"

I see history repeating itself through the child....

She sat on her ass......he cleared the table!!!! They were sitting on the couch..The patio door was open ..she was cold.. She wouldn't get up to close it herself..she told him too He said I worked all day..you get up & close it.. She refused....so he jumped up and did it!!!!

BF's x would "get a migraine" whenever she wanted to get out of a family function with his family..then as soon as he left she would be miraculously cured...

Guess who's started that game. Told sister-in-law (whose onto her) yeah I'll be over ...sounds great..etc.. Two minutes later called my BF saying she had a headache and had to cancel but can you tell sister-in-law for me.

The X used to sit on her ass and do nothing while BF cooked thankgiving dinners for a gang...but when he was almost done everything all by himself...she would ask.. Do you need help with anything honey?!! NO it's done. Oh...I was going to help you with that....So she would look good in front of others

I almost dropped dead one day when SD & her now fiance were over for supper and she did the exact same thing..while sitting on the couch. Waited for supper to be almost ready then asked if he needed any help!!!! I couldn't believe it. The hundreds of times BF told me that story about what a bitch X was and the times she pulled that stunt to make herself look good in front of company.......

The apple doesn't fall far from the tree!!!

I was helping him in the kitchen and it literally stopped me in my tracks and my jaw dropped!!! He just went about his business.."No Cutie were ok in here".

I mentioned it later..he just changed the subject...he just can't bring himself to reconcile that they are thier mother's children. And I don't want to be seen as bashing them all the time.

I want to see her as he does..as a good kid..a good person..etc..but I see the mother's traits jumpin out at me.

He refuses to see that sometimes......

THE CAT'S IN THE KITTEN!!!!!