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I think it finally sunk in- this will never work......

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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Mon, 03/04/2013 - 7:44am

I hate these kids. They are complete assholes to me and any other woman who does not Mary poppins their a$$es. Spoon full of sugar and such. Their father will not parent. Never will make them accountable. Trying to ignore them every weekend is not working.....and I have only lived with him a year. What the HELL am I thinking exactly? This will never work. I am already completely miserable. It's time that I get used to the idea of letting him go.

It is like my counselor said. A bird and a fish can fall in love but where will they live? He likes my daughter. She lives with us full time. She's normal and nice. Well, his kids are lazy, entitled, selfish, unruly, smelly brats and I cannot stand them. And they are a package for life. So I have to move on!

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Mon, 03/04/2013 - 8:13am

Isn't he the dad that talked about his daughter's bras, watched her walk around the house in her underware and may have had a sexual relationship with her?

If so, since you have a teenage daughter, leaving him should be easy.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Mon, 03/04/2013 - 8:14am

I agree that is is time to move on and am glad for & proud of you for doing so too Smile You deserve far better than this situation.

"Their father will not parent." If he won't do that, then I think he is the problem and the skids' poor behavior is a symptom of the the problem- his lack of ability to parent.

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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Mon, 03/04/2013 - 9:17am

Now I am stuck in the reality phase of the plan. WHere will I move? Etc........TAkes awhile. Not that fun.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Mon, 03/04/2013 - 10:20am

I am so glad you came to this conclusion.

Starting over isn't easy, you may have to downgrade for a while until you get back on your feet. But it will be worth it and I have a feeling your daughter will thank you for it.

I live in the same state as you if you need some suggestions. Good luck!

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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Mon, 03/04/2013 - 11:23am

Well, I have no idea what universe I was in thinking that while I was tearing my hair out after 1 year that I will be able to last 8 MORE YEARS! I just keep saying to myself, like I bet many others do, "its just eight more years and then they will be gone". Well, they WILL NEVER BE GONE is actually the truth. Honestly....the thought of eight more years of EVERY WEEKEND OF MY LIFE WITH THESE KIDS.....MAKES ME WANT TO HANG MYSELF.

I am in recovery and more to the truth it makes me want to drink desperately.

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Submitted by mimi719 on Mon, 03/04/2013 - 10:45pm

I feel the same way and think about leaving too often. Then, we have a wonderful weekend ALONE and I think we'll be alright. Ha.

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Submitted by fedup13 on Mon, 03/04/2013 - 11:09pm

Same here. I always allow myself to be sucked back in by momentary and always temporary charm. TBH, I am just so wore out from the last year, that I don't have it in me to leave. I am just wore slick out.