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Delusional Disneyland Dad …. Game Over

Lillywy00's picture

His time has come. 

Im out!!!!

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Lillywy00's picture

I left for good 

and I'm never going back 

Yesterdays's picture

don't bother telling him.. Just block. I think that he will figure it out so why say anything 

Lillywy00's picture

It's a highly secured luxury apartment 

several moves UP!!!

He would get arrested on sight if he tried it. 

LittleCloud9's picture

I guess it depends on if you want to deal with another conversation or if you want to just be done and block. Do what is true to you 

glad you are safe 

Felicity0224's picture

I'm actually against ghosting him altogether. Only because you're good person, and in my opinion good people don't do that to someone else. Barring safety concerns, of course! I would compose a very short and direct message: "this relationship was not working for me and I do not care to try to salvage it. I've taken only what belonged to me, I left the ring in such and such place. Please do not contact me. I wish you the best." And send it when you know he's off work, then block him. 

LittleCloud9's picture

I generally agree about ghosting except in situations where there has been abuse. Since she has described some scary abusive situations, like him sitting on top of her, I would totally understand if it's too much emotionally and mentally to have one more conversation with him. 

Catmom024's picture

I would attempt a civil discussion...he may be concerned about your welfare.   If it turns nasty hang up and block.

la_dulce_vida's picture

It doesn't matter whether you say anything or stay silent. He's going to freak out and turn you into the villain. Do what's best for your mental health. If you decide to tell him, block him on your phone the second after you send the message.

There is nothing wrong with not saying anything if that's what's best for you.

 

CLove's picture

What ever You consider that to be. If you think he will be worried about you if you go no contact, let him know you are safe. Hopefully you took a photo of the ring and where it was so that you can point it out to him if he asks. So he cannot play that you took it. 

YAY!!!! SO GLAD!!!!

Keep us posted.

Lillywy00's picture

Ugh I didn't think to take a photo. 
 

I did leave it as you all suggested 

I still have it insured but I'm not trying to risk my reputation filing false claims

He better not play about that. 

CajunMom's picture

Congrats on your new life!

You do what's best for you. My suggestion, if you feel the need to not ghost, use Felicity's suggestion as your model to reply. 
 

So happy for you!!!

thinkthrice's picture

I'm sure there's bound to be some drama generated by him another vote for don't say anything.

I am sure they'll be another country song written about it  "my woman up and left me with no warning and I don't know why"  ( actually they know they're being rotten to us)

Hastings's picture

I'm so happy for you! Best wishes on your new (and I hope far happier) adventure!

I agree with others. You are the best judge of what's best for you and what you can live with. In situations like this, it's usually best not to get sucked into a conversation. But sending the text and then hitting block would be a good option for letting him know but avoiding any discussion.

LittleCloud9's picture

You could always choose to reach out later if you prefer. On a day when you're calm you can compose your thoughts if there's anything you feel should be said or explained and send it to him. It doesn't necessarily have to be today or never. 

grannyd's picture

Lilly, I also support Felicity’s sound advice. From your past blogs, it’s clear that ‘the dude’ is wearing blinders as to his behaviour toward you. He has no idea that you were getting ready to bail and will be devastated.

 Sending a brief text, stating the bare facts i.e. you were unhappy, the relationship was wrong for both of you and that you are each free to find a partner more suitable, is the moral thing to do. You’re a good gal and I believe that your mind would rest easier if you gave the ex a heads up.

Rags's picture

Take care of you, protect yourself to the fullest extent of the law, finacially, and socially.

Please keep us updated.

Sincere regards,

Rags

JRI's picture

Physical safety.  People do crazy things during breakups.  

NieMojCyrk's picture

Congrats Lilly, protect yourself and your daughter. Wishing you best of luck in your new life! 

Harry's picture

I am sorry for you to leave someone you loved.  You two just have different life's to live. He has his kids, you want a close relationship.  What can you say mwhat you already said. He can't change his living status, he can't lose his kids or BM. Just leave it alone.  Do you want to hear all the crying and begging?  Give it time 

MrsStepmother's picture

Congratulations, Lillywy00! You made moves that many of us on here wish we could make too! I wish you all the best in your new drama-free/step-kid free chapter of your life!