And now an update on stepkids
First off a giant apology for not addressing all of the heart fealt comments regarding my mother. She's currently in a tango between life and death . I can't change or do jack shit.
So my crazy ass stepkids. I love them. I truly do but holy shit their mother's level of crazy always finds ways into my household. Gems like :
"Mom wants us to be homeschooling "
" Mom doesn't believe we possibly came from apes"
" Our big brother cheated on ( his long time girlfriend)"
" Our big brother took his new girlfriend to his ( old longtime girlfriends) smoothie place. She made him a gross smoothie"
Like I found it hard to explain what was happening with my mother and felt guilty explaining it ( I am one of those jerks that believes in telling kids some element of truth when it impacts their lives as I'm likely going to not be "all there" )
Icing or actually the damn substance of the issue : she keeps taking them out of school to see family. Which maybe once a year would be ok but I'm terrified of seeing that final report card with how many days that totalled. They are both behind as far as school goes. And yet they are obsessed with internet culture ( their cousin who is 8 was caught texting a 20 something on tiktok) but that isn't a wake up call to her and this many years into it it's going to basically happen to one of them before he thinks about going to court.
My husband hates that I want to get a damn piece of paper. I think he's afraid of getting fucked over but if he had that piece of paper his kids could have insurance under my work. I'm done. Like truly done. I keep saying I'm done but my mother was the one who pushed me to get the piece of paper and she's well close to gone ? I don't know. Updates from my sister make me hopeful at times and other times just realizing we need to start planning. I'm truly done trying where the kids are and I'll say it again. I . Am . Done. With caring about them getting better grades and custody etc.
I'm happy not having them full time. We still live in a tiny place. I'll still help pick them up but I want zero input on their upbringing. I'll love them. I'll talk to them. But I don't want to be heart broken when they go back a grade .
All I can do is nerd out about dinosaurs with them and just remain as numb as life has made me.
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If the bio parents don’t care
About grades, and the kids getting pulled out of school don't make it your issue.
As for kids talking about their mom, I think a lot of us can agree that they just do this, BM's thoughts somehow always make it into our homes via way of the skids. My personal favorite was once when SS16 was 8, he said something like his mom said I was "just a nurse", not a doctor. Also about 2 years ago SS16 told me how his mom was making fun of SS21s girlfriend at the time, making racist jokes about her being Middle Easten to her face and he laughed about how bad it was. I obviously didn't find it amusing.
I try my best to ignore it all, they do end up growing up and I adopted the attitude that they aren't my project.
Your skids still seem to like you and as loony as their mom is, the fact that she doesn't seem to be toxic towards you should actually work in your favor.
Let the kids turn out how they will, and if they want to complain when they get older, don't forget to always remind them that they area product of their parents' efforts.
You are right but sometimes
You are right but sometimes it's hard to not want to see an actual positive change in their education. They could be bright young girls but the lights are being dimmed on them by their mother. I should be strong enough to not care but I truly can't even when I try.