NEED ADVICE
HI EVERYONE
I HAVE 3 ADULT CHILDREN(26,28,30) AND I'M ENGAGED TO A GUY WITH 3 YOUNGER CHILDREN.(5,10,14) MY FIANCE HAS ISSUES WITH MY DAUGHTER WHICH IS THE YOUNGEST OF MY CHILDREN. MY DAUGHTER HAS 2 CHILDREN A 9 YEAR OLD AND 3 MONTH OLD.I'LL ADMIT SHE HASN'T BEEN DOING THE BEST WITH HER LIFE- AND WHAT I MEAN IS KEEPING A JOB!SHE DOES PAY HER OWN BILLS THOUGH WITH HER CHILD SUPPORT AND SHE ALSO CLEANS HOUSES AS WELL.SHE HAS RE-ENROLLED IN COLLEGE FOR THE FALL. HOWEVER, SHE IS A VERY GOOD MOTHER.SHES NOT DISRESPECTFUL AND BARELY COMES TO MY HOME BECAUSE SHE FEELS NOT WELCOMED. MY FIANCE FEELS THAT I SUPPORT HER AND THAT HE WANTS ME TO STOP TAKING CARE OF HER- HE SAYS I BAIL HER OUT OF EVERYTHING AND RUN TO HER RESCUE. HE HARPS ON HER ALL THE TIME AND PUTS HER DOWN A LOT. JUST RECENTLY THERE WAS TROUBLE AT HER DADS HOME WITH OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS. SHES STAYS IN ONE OF HER DADS APARTMENTS BY THE HOME. MY FIANCE GOT SO ANGRY BECAUSE SHE WAS INVOLVED IN THE SITUATION AND I AGREED WITH MY DAUGHTER. THE REASON WHY I AGREED WITH HER IS SHES VERY OUTSPOKEN AND SHE WAS RIGHT IN THE SITUATION. BUT TO HIM I ALWAYS TAKE UP FOR HER AND SHE NEVER DOES WRONG.NOW HE WANTS TO END OUR RELATIONSHIP. I'VE BEEN WITH HIM FOR 5 YEARS AND WE HAVE AN AWESOME RELATIONSHIP. IN WHICH HE CLAIMS HE HAD TO DEAL WITH MY DAUGHTER FOR ALL THIS TIME AND HES SICK OF IT. IS THERE SOMETHING I'M NOT SEEING HERE OR IS HE JUST PLAIN SELFISH!
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He also has three minor
He also has three minor children and he may feel that they need to be shielded from what is going on with her. Does she have some unsavory stuff in her past that he might object to his kids being around?
You said she pays her bills.
You said she pays her bills. He said you bail her out. Do you?
Have her personal problems caused drama to bleed into your home life with your fiance and his kids?
I know from first hand experience how having a family member with "issues" can cause stress to ripple through everyone's lives. Your Fiance may just be tired of the constant upheaval in his life.
From your blog, it's a little hard to understand what may have gone on with her previously.
What were the circumstances
What were the circumstances when he has said you bail her out?
He assumes I pay her bills
He assumes I pay her bills and buy her grocery but I do not. He constantly makes snary remarks in reference to this. I feel he just looks for bad in her.
The man has told you that he
The man has told you that he wants to end your relationship. Believe him. Move on.
I have an adult skid with a child. He lives 15 minutes away. I have nothing to do with his life. My DH does not inflict SS's problems on me. Your DH shouldn't have to even know what your DD's daily life issues are.
Let him go. You seem to have
Let him go. You seem to have valid reasons for your views about your daughter and it is going to be pure misery with him trashing her to you. I'm sure there would be many bumps in the road yet to come with a 5,10, and 14 year old but since he is certain he is going to be a perfect parent and can predict his kids will never struggle let him just go off and live his perfect life by himself or with someone else. Frankly, he sounds like an ass.