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Submitted by jenmomof4 on Thu, 01/14/2010 - 9:18am

I need to talk to any of you who are in a week on week off situation with your children and you ex, we have been on a good schedule for 2 1/2 years and all of the sudden in October my ex files a motion in court to modify parenting time, to one week on and one week off, what a slap in the face he didn't even talk to me but he talked to the kids HELLO!

I need some advice

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MarriedwithChild's picture

Submitted by MarriedwithChild on Thu, 01/14/2010 - 10:05am

50/50 time-sharing plan? It depends on the age.

We had/ (may have again with psycho BM on the war path) the week on, week off thing with ss5. He was a nightmare because he literally could do anything he wanted with her. (sleep in his mammas bed, eat candy, watch tv) and when he came here for his week with us was a complete nightmare. SS5 was nuts. DH and BM HAD decided to switch to 40/60 (40 us) Friday-Monday, BUT she is showing her behind AGAIN about monies and not willing to cough up a financial affidavit to take back to court for modification of time sharing. BM not in compliance with what was needed to keep my husband OUT of jail is CAUSING us to go back to the 50/50 split.

It depends on the childs age(behavior- or lack of) and their mother.

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Submitted by stepmom2one on Thu, 01/14/2010 - 8:33pm

Well we filed for a mediation hearing (required before court) about a modification in visitation without talking to BM (3 yrs ago). We did not call her first, and we did not give it to her. We knew that she would be pissed and just yell n scream so DH filed with the mediator. They asked him if she would accept the papers from him, but we knew she won't so we had her served.

It was not to be nasty, we just knew it would be less stressful for us if we did it that way. The discuss needed to be done in mediation to have it put through that courts, so why fight it out before hand over the phone? It may have stressed her out more but frankly we don't care about her or her feelings.

Mediation went well. She gave in to most of the requests. It was filed with the court and life moved on.

As far as 50/50 goes...it can work well if you and the ex are able to co parent. If not it will be a disaster. One week on/off is one way to do 50/50 or you can do 3 days/4 days then you/him are not without the kids for such a long period of time.

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Submitted by kimber4155 on Fri, 01/15/2010 - 12:04pm

50/50 custody can work if both households are ran in the same way and both parties get along. But I can tell you from the 50/50 we had several years it was HORRIBLE!!!!! Are house there are rules,taking baths, eating correctly and proper bed times. At their BD's there was none of that so when we would get the kids back. They would be tired and dirty. Here a question to ask yourself? Where do that call home in a 50/50 custody.