A while back R was dating a girl named H. I didn't know her very well but the more I got to know her the less I cared for her.
She started out as a girlfriend of one of his friends. But when the friends' mom insisted that he break up with her. R decided to pick up where his friend left off.

I think she is a little on the mentally unstable side and the reasons are as follows:

1. She went with us down to Indy for a family member's birthday party. The whole 4 hour car ride there and back all she talked about was the ex-boyfriend.

2. At the party, my sister-in-law and I were joking with him about setting up a facebook page. He said that H had set one up for him but he never uses it because he doesn't know the password.

3. When they were dating, he spent the majority of time over at his mother's house. H and his mom seemed to be BFFs. His mom let this girl Pierce R's ear at her house! It was really creepy how much time they spent together.

4. When he finally dumped her to go out with someone else. She started harassing his mom, and begging her to make R take her back.

So now I guess for whatever reason R and his other girlfriend S have broken up. Yesterday, he asked if someone could come over and there she is the Crazy Ex.

However, there is a twist to this story. I am a step parent so I have no say over what goes on with R. That has been proven time and time again. When R has someone over, boy or girl, they hang out in his room. When discussing this with a sister in law, it was pointed out that Teenagers of the opposite sex should never be allowed to be alone together in their room. I agree with this statement however, I feel like I am powerless in this situation because all of the other times I have been ignored.
He has been allowed to do whatever he wants for the past 17 years. It's a little late in the game to be trying to enforce rules. Especially when his father is so totally trusting of him. I would like to say No girls over without supervision and that when he has a girl in his room that the door needs to be open at all times, but I am willing to bet that I will get laughed at and he's going to do what he wants anyway. Not only that but it's probably not going to matter because then he will just spend even more time over at his mom's house where he does what he wants, when he wants, with whom he wants.
This is so frustrating!