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Submitted by Jeanied123 on Wed, 08/14/2019 - 5:59pm

I had to call it quits with my man because SD15 convinced him I am mean to her and the cause of all her problems! I'm so sad right now because I tried to like/love her but she is a Trainwreck! SD15 stole from my family on a vacation, has been arrested twice for drugs and theft, suspended for fighting etc. I told her Dad she is deflecting and needs to quit playing the victim card, but he said he agrees with her. Writing this I see the path forward for me has to be alone, but emotionally I'm devastated! Any advice?

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Jeanied123's picture

Submitted by Jeanied123 on Wed, 08/14/2019 - 6:34pm

I know damnit, but it still hurts!

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Submitted by CLove on Wed, 08/14/2019 - 6:39pm

I know your heart must be hurting, even while knowing that this was the best thing.

Take some time to heal then promise us here on steptalk that you will NEVER get together with someone whose daughter:

- steals
- is drug addict/does drugs
- has mini wife syndrome
- hates you
- has a disordered high conflict mother

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Submitted by Jeanied123 on Wed, 08/14/2019 - 6:40pm

I promise, thank you. 

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Wed, 08/14/2019 - 7:27pm

This is excellent advice.

Keep coming back and reading about stephell. Teenagers are the worst and if he can't see he is being played, you life with him would have been miserable whenever she is there. Kids don't just magically move out and not come around at 18. There would have been college drama, getting a job drama- probably failure to launch and guilty daddy drama. Sooooo much drama and EVERYTHING would have been your fault.

You got out, you can still have an amazing life with a childless or at least a father that has a decent head on his shoulders.

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Submitted by StrawberryPie on Wed, 08/14/2019 - 7:29pm

You will rise up from this. I know it must hurt so much right now, but there is light at the end of the heart break.  Grab some ice cream and Netflix, or curl up on a friends couch, or get a massage - whatever feels good for you!  

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Wed, 08/14/2019 - 7:34pm

Honestly, stop and think really hard about why you are devastated by this "loss". This sounds like no loss to me. Your partner is supposed to be, well, your PARTNER. He was not. 

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Submitted by Jade123 on Tue, 09/14/2021 - 8:26am

Hon, as sad and bad as this might sound, you will never ever come between your hubby and his 15 year old daugther.
You will always be the bad one,

I should've ran, I did not and allot of heart ache awaited me.

Being single and alone is actually a blessing lol, get yourself a couple off naughty pups and your life will be full.

Heck I still get the tiny piece of the duvet, I still have to sleep like a stick figure on the edge of the bed, and yes, nice warm bodies next to me snoring away.... my 2 pups lol...