My osd28 has invited us to multi-purpose get together. Our new infant gs Catholic Christening, Birthday party for 6 year gs and a house warming party for osd & her spouse. I really dread being around all the "haters". BM who plays the sweet little innocent victim, thieving ss who has not talked to us in over 6 mos which is the 2nd estrangement from him, and msd who has not had anything to do with us in 5 years. BM has pas'ed the skds. I am not just saying I have been a good sm, I HAVE. I am not just say my dh has been a wonderful father, he has, although he does have a people pleasing problem. I feel osd just looking for gifts. she has never appreciated anything we have ever done for her so my jets are real cooled down on wanting to do anything. All I want to do is get a gift for our 6 year old gs (who btw told me I was not his real grandma). He is a sweet boy and just let it slip one day. I love him and hold nothing against him other than fear of osd going over a year without talking to us again. I may be afraid for nothing at this time as she seems to really want a relationship with her dad and even named her new infant son after her dad. She has still been politely rude to me at times. So it just leaves my on my guard to protect myself from their abuse. I love my husband and am thankful for him but when it comes to his kids he does not see their abuse at all and I am just left feeling all beat up. I want to be wise in how I handle myself but there are times I wish I could just beat the shit out someone. excuse the language. I am a christian and should not talk like that but there are times I just don't care.